Just looking for direction, input, personal stories, anecdotes, links, infographics, literally anything on the topic.

Something to help one better themselves, manage their life and put some structure or control in place.

  • MuttMutt@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    14 hours ago

    1. To “fix your life” you need to decide what is broken, make a plan, and stick to it.

    2. If you have mental health issues you need to address them. However an issue doesn’t just mean you can just blame that and do nothing, basically that means go to #1.

    3. Saying you are just bad at something and then not following through is a copout. You forget calendars and lists? You forget your cell phone in random places and then have to replace it too then right? No. Well any modern smart phone has a calendar and a to do list. Again return to #1.

    4. The next big one most people state is they don’t have the time. Again it’s a copout unless you are working 80 hours a week or have a multi hour daily commute. The truth is you don’t make the time, see statement #1.

    I’m dealing with the same stuff with my adult stepson. He works about 20 hours per week and complains about his job but won’t take the steps to learn new skills or get a driver’s license. There are 168 hours a week, in those 168 hours an average person sleeps 56 hours. That means there are 112 hours per week you are awake, subtract the number of hours you work and then figure out how many you are currently wasting to play games and watch TV or just goof off. Divide that time in half and dedicate that time to doing the crap you don’t like doing and get it done, then go learn a skill that will put you in a better job or make your life better.

    You have a lot of choices in life, but through action or inaction you make a decision. You can either make better decisions or accept the results of the decisions you make.

    It might sound harsh but the world isn’t going to hold your hand like a toddler, it is however going to kick you square in the face a few times. And believe me I know exactly how it feels.