When I was younger, I always heard that “true gentleman” value and don’t fear commitment. I also heard a lot of girls I used to be friends with complain about how their ex-boyfriends didn’t like commitment and how they shouldn’t have dated in the first place then. Now that I’ve gone out into the dating world, I can confirm several of my breakups were caused by the person fearing commitment.
Some were just the person was an asshole, some were that they lost feelings mid-relationship, and if it wasn’t either two, they were just plain afraid of commitment. But what makes people afraid to commit? What are some of the reasons anyway, or your reasons if you fear or feared commitment?
My ex “C” said our relationship wasn’t “real” and didn’t mean anything, and that she liked me but wasn’t looking for a long-term commitment. She also essentially wanted to be FWB (friends with benefits) but later said she didn’t want to and we were just friends and that we never actually had a relationship.
I don’t know if it’s so much fear of commitment than it is just trying different people and everyone is allowed to do that whether you like it or not. Sorry, that’s just the dating world in practice. People only have one life to live and they will take all of the time of it, to find someone or not, whether it means having to go through multiple people.
So I find it a bit misleading that you use the idea that it is all about being afraid.
Also, your ex did you a favor and was at least honest. That’s far more mature than anyone who simply just won’t give you that clarification. What it meant is that you weren’t exactly 100% up to par with what she expected or who she looked for. You were probably a modest percentage to warrant being liked.
Fair, thanks