This has impacted my life so negatively I don’t even know where to start.
My friends and I started drinking at 17 and went out almost every weekend. Every year we had huge events like festivals (Germany has many) and well those were like 3 days being drunk in a row.
If i could turn back time I’d probably just tell myself to not do it and probably do it again anyways.
I’m getting invested in the gym and it’s so good. I wonder how I’d look like today if I would have just been at the gym in my 20s.
Not only that. I wonder how my friend circle would look like cause currently I have no friends I’d consider “friends”. Those were all drinking buddies. They still drink every weekend and more and more I realised they are just functioning alcoholics.
And since I don’t drink anymore (2 years) I’m basically out.
So I’d say alcohol didn’t only have a negative impact on my brain while I was still young (and after) it also hit my wallet, my time for better things (sports)… etc.
Man. Sucks. Sucks to be me.
Now I am happy I have a wife, a house and going in the right direction but it is soooo hard to find friends or atleast people if you aren’t in school anymore and coworkers busy with own life.
If I could give anyone younger advice I’d just stay screw it and go to the gym and find a hobby like climbing, swimming, golfing, tennis or something and get people there.
Go do stuff! Like, find a hobby YOU like to do, the friends will come with it.
If you like the gym, maybe sign up for a spin class so you get thrown in a room with 30 people who also like the gym.
Took me until 27 to figure out I wasn’t making friends because I was going to “social venues”; I’m not a social person. Once i started hanging out at crestive venues to do my art, or browsing at the library (and making one or two unprompted remarks about my fellow patrons choice In books) the circle of friends started to fall into place!
Edit: I spell like a toddler