So my parents take the trash can and put it TOUCHING the table where you put food… in order to clear the table, and sometimes they FORGET TO WASH THEIR HANDS after TOUCHING THE TRASH CAN and then start touching other stuff… sometimes even cooking stuff…
one time I even saw the trash can ON TOP OF THE FUCKING TABLE so its supposedly easier to put the stuff into the teash can…
And even if they wash their hands… they often times (most of the time) DO NOT USE SOAP…
Sometimes they take the trash can and move it around to collect trash WHILE INGREDIENTS ARE LYING AROUND… like what if you accidentally stuff from the trash can just like… hops over the gap and contaminate stuff?
Like dont fucking get the trash can so close to food FFS
Also they sometimes (VERY OFTEN) don’t wash their hands after using the bathroom… I hear them touching the bathroom lids…
Also they put used toilet paper in a trash can… (different trash can in the bathroom)
sometimes I hear mom touch that trash can without washing hands…
My parents tell me I’m being germophobic…
I’m not crazy am I?
Is this just how most people life?
The fuck?
Edit: I’m gonna copy paste one of my comments below, to right here:
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So… okay my house is kinda fucked up…
There’s this issue with the 2nd floor bathtub randomly leaking…
Here’s a picture of what the ceiling looks like right now:
So they had to put a container below where it leaks:
So they sometimes take this container and put it on the table to collect the trash… Like ON THE TABLE…
Ewww bathtub drain water is gonna contaminate it…
Also the table looks like this right now:
Literally like 95% of the stuff on there stays on there like 365 days a year… its been like this since like 2017 as far as I can remember…
Maybe if guests come they clear the table… then aftet they leave shit goes back to the old ways…
Also, regarding the bathroom… nah… I’ll spare you the photo… don’t even want that nasty image in my photo album… just picture a small bin next to the toilet with a bunch of USED toilet paper…
I think the core issue in situations like these is that you are made to lack a baseline feeling of comfort in your home. Fear of germs can be a rationalization to justify the bad feelings, and it can also be used by others to dismiss your feelings. We each need to feel a baseline of control over our own bodies, and that can be disrupted by the persistent actions of others when those actions unavoidably affect us. I think that such living conditions can act as a sort of feedback loop, in which your need for a feeling of cleanliness becomes stronger in response to the grossness you perceive around you, while your attempts to get them to be more mindful of their actions might cause them to “double-down” on the very things causing your distress. You maybe only ever feel safe and comfortable in your room, or if it’s shared with others then maybe not even there.
You are not unreasonable to have these feelings; your feelings are valid.
I hope your post at least grants you some assurance that you are not the problem.