I’m becoming a grandpa at 43. Mildly infuriating, 'cause there are way worse things in life.

  • Iconoclast@feddit.uk
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    7 hours ago

    Why is this a bad thing? My parents would be thrilled to become grandparents.

      • fizzle@quokk.au
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        5 hours ago

        Some challenges for sure but it sounds like she at least has some support.

        Teenagers have been having kids since the dawn of time.

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        5 hours ago

        Idiots. That said, what’s done is done, enjoy your grandbaby! And don’t let them take advantage of you.

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        6 hours ago

        Well I’m assuming they had the option to terminate the pregnancy if they so chose to but since they didn’t it’s probably what they want so it just seems a bit weird to be infuriated by it as her dad.

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          6 hours ago

          Because at 17 and 19 he’s going to be the actual parent.

          Especially if those two idiots think having a kid at that age is a good idea.

          Most dipshit teenagers know better than that.

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            I don’t know anything about their situation and neither do you. I’ve known parents at 16/18 who did a good job (with help of their parents), and I know adult parents who should have had a snip the moment they were born. Sure it’s going to be hard for teenagers, but it doesn’t mean it’s going to be bad.

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              (with help of their parents)

              Yeah maybe they’d like to at least attempt to finish raising their kids before having to raise their kids kids?

              I mean Jesus Christ people can barely afford to live alone let alone take care of their kid. Most parents do NOT have the resource for an unplanned kid.

              Who’s going to pay a two teenagers a living wage? Whos going to make up for the fact that their fucking brains are still under heavy development? Better yet, the fact that they aren’t even full fucking adults? That’s a lot of heavy lifting, even if they’re “good with the help of their parents.”

              Call me crazy, but if I thought I was almost done parenting only to find out I have another 18+ years of this shit I’d be a little pissed.

              • JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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                4 hours ago

                Read the comments. OP and the in-laws are all apparently wealthy. So you can calm down all your worries about wages & resources.

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          6 hours ago

          Kids making kids can lead to many issues. I mean I’m just guessing but they might not have the best, most stable jobs, living situation etc.

    • Alex@lemmy.ml
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      6 hours ago

      At 43 that’s probably a little earlier than the OP expected and if their daughter wasn’t planning on starting that early it’s going to affect school and job prospects.

      That’s not too say it can’t work. One of my in-laws had their first at 18 and now as their last leaves for uni they are still fit and young enough to enjoy the empty nest experience.