Seriously, it’s a lot more sanitary for everyone involved. You’re gonna be naked and your butthole might run against something or other, so make sure you’re not getting your shit on anything. Plus, you might not think it smells, but your partner might think otherwise. They might just be too polite to say anything. Use baby wipes or soapy water.

For those of you wondering: Yes, there are some grown adult humans with fully developed brains who need to be told this. Even if you’re not involving your anus in the sex, it pays off to keep it clean. It’s one less thing to worry about for everyone.

No, it’s not “gay” (and what would be wrong with it if it was?) or “demeaning”, it’s what you’re supposed to do. You’re not “less manly” or any other “negative” trait you might perceive it to be, you’re practicing basic and necessary hygiene.

  • velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    161·
    13 days ago

    Once you go with a bidet, you’ll never want to go back. And maybe TMI, but they’re especially fucking great when one is on their period as well.

    Everyone should get a little more acquainted with their buttholes. With colon cancer on the rise especially! Keep it clean and know what’s normal for you.

    • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      10·
      12 days ago

      Not a vagina haver myself but wow that makes so much sense.

      Had not considered that use case, but… I mean like, I have known women, this seems extremely useful, lol, for uh… high flow days/months… not sure how to word that any better, hahah!

    • PhenomenalPancake@lemmy.worldOPM
      41·
      13 days ago

      I’d have one if it was possible with the apartment I have, but sadly, the only way to install one would be to make illegal modifications to the bathroom.

      • blitzen@lemmy.ca
        18·
        12 days ago

        You’re likely mistaken. Bolts on like any other replaceable seat, and plumbs into the exposed water hose. Uninstalling leaves the bathroom in literally the same condition as you started.

      • Mobiuthuselah@mander.xyz
        9·
        13 days ago

        We have a portable electric for when we travel. It’s not quite as nice as the one at home, but it’s waaay better than not having it.

        The one at home is the same or similar to what’s mentioned above (I’m a big fan of the Brondell SS-150/250.) Cheap, simple to install, and removable for when you move. We rent as well. If you can see a little oblong handle on your toilet water supply, you can install it without anyone knowing. If not, try a portable.

      • TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        51·
        13 days ago

        That’s sort of surprising to hear. Can you not access the water supply line that goes to the fill valve on the toilet? The one I got just hooks right into there and fits under the seat. It took me like 15 minutes to install it with basic tools and I’ve moved with it three times.