Growing up everyone around me treated me like a weird freak for staring off at like a wall or out the window or something else when I was lost in thought or bored, so what are we supposed to do when we’re not actively look at something?
Growing up everyone around me treated me like a weird freak for staring off at like a wall or out the window or something else when I was lost in thought or bored, so what are we supposed to do when we’re not actively look at something?
It isn’t one place. Neurotypical eye movement is fairly constant, with a lot of time spent looking at or around other people. People who are autistic or have ADHD have a different pattern and often get commentary that they are staring at something like they want to burn it down or that they are off with the fairies.
To help with masking one strategy is to have a frequent face check, looking near the faces of people who are in the room, especially those who have just entered or moved. If someone is speaking they should be looked at but not 100% of the time, more like 70-90%. Other time should be spent looking around the room, looking at whatever is behind or around them, or at whatever they are presenting if applicable.
That said, if that isn’t enough clarity I would recommend spending some time actually watching other people. You can do this in a classroom environment but people may find it disconcerting, so using sunglasses and doing it at a café is a fairly good option. Pay attention to where their eyes are going and what they are doing. If they are talking to someone compare their eye behaviour while they are talking to while they are listening, it is quite different. Same with if they are eating, drinking, reading, and so on. Some people spend a surprisingly large portion of the time while reading not looking at the page.