I want to host a fediverse instance but I need it to be light (limited system resources). Mastodon seems to be kinda heavy. GotoSocial is supposedly very light? (but limited on functionality?) is Pixelfed much heavier? Bonfire is built on elixir so should also be light? Akkoma? Pleroma?
Also, I need it to be engaging to people migrating mostly from IG, so I do need some bells/whistles I guess
thanks!


For a single user instance (or friends - family) pretty much anything will do.
Consider also ease of administration, upgrade smoothness. It vary quite a lot depending on the stack and maturity of instances flavors.