Feelings I had for my classmate were obviously one-sided (pretty sure of it), so I made a reasonable decision to never confess to not make things awkward. In a few years since we graduated I finally moved on, although I never loved anyone this much since.
Yet all this time I had a desire to tell her about them. I would definitely want to know if someone loved me this much ever. Would she? I don’t know. I don’t even know if she is in a relationship right now or not.
I would really want to cite some scientific study that “Over 80% of girls have their self-confidence lifted after being told they were secretly admired (p<0.05)”, but can’t find one.
Read back. I wasn’t harsh until OP responded disingenuously.
As far as this person. I specifically dislike when people play devils advocate while knowing they don’t actually know enough. Especially when they’re reenforcing toxic male behaviours towards women.
The person I’m replying to is genuinely doing harm to OP by feeding into their confirmation bias. Lets not forget I’m telling OP not to do something that could have life changing social consequences… especially if they go about it in the socially inept way they present themselves.