30 something woman here, apparently I masturbate a lot compared to my friends.
I have to say “yeah once a week too” when they raise the subject ,when in fact it is multiple times a day. Husband would also do 2 times a day if he kept to his “normal” cadence. I know “whatever works for me” is right, but I’d like to compare to other people my age that aren’t my friends.
The baby stages are SO HARD. For many reasons that aren’t as obvious as the most common ones like sleep. Sometimes just committing to snuggling naked was enough to reconnect and sometimes it would lead to sex that we didn’t think we had the energy for. Lots of little compromises until the babies get a little older.
Mostly you two just have to get through this together and if your communication is good, you’ll be good. They grow way faster than it seems when you’re in the early trenches of parenthood!