This is fascinating and I have a bunch of questions, basically all centered around the fact that possession of the such content is outlawed. I don’t exoect OP to know, but maybe someone else does:

Isn’t it illegal to have a library of such content? Is there a legal carveout for that, like Coca Cola importing cocaine?

How is the library compiled, maintained, and added to?

Is the library specific to Discord or is it a shared library maintained by some centralized “authority” or developer? If it’s specific to Discord then can we assume there are many different libraries of illegally produced and possessed content compiled and maintained by various social media companies? Who’s got that job? Do they get therapy in their benefits package?

How does eating popcorn == CSAM?

Your city has a cool vibe.

The Sopranos theme music

My wife and my bandmates

You want a guy who’s not interested in sex? Have you considered just befriending gay men? Or dating a guy closer to 50?

Seriously, almost guy your age is on the prowl…

Stories are lame and I literally never watch them unless a sexy woman is involved

If it really matters to you then just say “Hey babe, I notice that you never watch my stories, but you’re on my mind when I make them”

Don’t make it about comparing. Just make it about him meeting your basic expectations of a distance relationship. If he continues to come up short, well… Life is too short to be seven hours away from your partner. I’m sure there are plenty of available folks in your area

And yeah, just don’t sweat if he’s got some thirsty follows. It’s similar to porn so maybe find something you can both enjoy together 🤷🏻‍♀️ or maybe get him to talk about it in a non-judgmental conversation

These guys aren’t corporate though