Some of these responses are so nuts that they might be your aunts conspiring to fuck with you. Or caterers desperate to sell one more plate. It’s like they never visit graves or even talk about the person that died again. Are you even ever going to see these people again?

Fuck what your dad wants. Ask your mom/siblings if they need the support, if you like them. And if you do go, you can literally fart on your aunts. I can’t fathom why people want you to engage with people who make your life worse for no gain. Yeah, smile for your boss because you need the paycheck, but this?

I live in a purple (supposedly) state and my grandfather suggested at Christmas that crosses should be burned in the yards of people who had signs up for a black democratic politician. Had no fucking clue he was like that. Haven’t seen him since.

So it doesn’t have to be a blue state, I guess, is my answer.