I mean, you still “cussed”. Switching two letters around doesn’t change the meaning and the original word doesn’t hold any special powers.

I agree it’s not much to make a reply about.

I think the attitude stems from the view that using placeholder words for swear words is often associated with religious/puritanical attitudes since there’s not really a reason to do it so the user reacts as they would to puritanical people invading their community i.e. hostile.

I think that’s not as true today but that’s where the backlash comes from.