They will. Report, and you see if the problem is one user, or the mods. If the mods are racist, it was never your thing. If they get banned, then you keep Nazis out of one more place.

The relationship has to work for both of you. You have to be clear about what you want and need. If you need time and space to yourself, it’s fair to make it clear. “I get tired, exhausted and depressed when I don’t get time to myself”. I really need x evenings per week to do my own thing. If she’s the right person, she’ll understand, listen and try to work with you.

Of course, if you separate, maybe the loneliness will become more significant than you realise. Do you enjoy spending time with them when it’s not forced? Do you still have things in common? Do you still enjoy the intimacy? These questions impact on whether the relationship is the issue, or your lack of boundaries and assertiveness plus your willingness to compromise on all your wants for them. Your wants are equally as important as theirs. It’s supposed to be an equal partnership. Always try to improve the situation first, as ultimately, if you end it, you may very well not be able to go back. Edit: (Maybe communicate starting with positives “I love you, and I really like our life together, but I have not always been good at communicating what I need and how I feel, and I think it’s made things really difficult. There are a few things I hope we can change to really improve things and I’d really like to try that”. Wording like this comes off blameless. She isn’t going to feel hurt or defensive and as a result will be more receptive. Also being honest and vulnerable can help build that connection.)

If you start to build a life you enjoy, you stop running, and hiding. Currently, you’re trying to escape because you feel powerless. You’re powerless because you haven’t learnt to communicate your needs and fight your corner. No one will truly look out for you like you can and you need to learn this. You need to develop your self-esteem to feel worthy of asking for the things you need. It doesn’t hurt to say “I love talking to you and you sharing things with me, but I really cannot handle too much problems before shifts. I need to get in a clear zen like mindset, or I’m carrying too much and it ruins my vibe and makes shifts harder to get through”.

Oh, and most critically, don’t have kids, or take risks until you know things have improved and are working. That’d really increase the pressure in the pressure cooker.

Edit: Many of these things I failed to do in the past and it took me too long to figure out and build a happy relationship. It’s hard and scary at first. You need to realise that person is with you because they love you and want you to be happy, not because of what you do for them. You do learn more about your relationship as you ask for what you need, whether this is good or bad, you’ll need to know.

Keyboard shortcuts? I don’t know any and use it effortlessly. Having session restore is a gift. If you don’t want stuff open, close. However, if you are regularly going to edit multiple files, having them reopen is far superior. Multiple tabs is far better than multiple windows and much easier to work with a mouse, rather than hover over program and select other window which is slow.

If you prefer alternative good for you, but expecting a text editor to not support sessions in 2025 is bizarre. Do you consider DE’s bloat too?

There is more to the process life cycle than just init. Systemd is not an init system.

Fair. I’ve considered the same myself.

I don’t pay Spotify though. £10 a month is 12 albums per year at least. Can buy full catalogue. For cycling new music I ain’t fully sold on when driving is fine though.

Spotify works for me.

I do online banking through the browser if I need it.

Me?! I’m not in America.

What have you done in this regard?

When you discredit publicly to the point you tarnish reputations to the point of changing electoral decisions that help fascists win, you’re complicit in that.

We can hold ourselves to account to be better, but being more critical of like minded folk than fascists is dumb. We apply pressure where it’ll be effective, such as primaries or selection contests so the best candidates win.

Nope. Brit here. All those examples were wrong. Yours is valid though.

Most of those issues I do not have. By waking from suspend, do you mean hibernate? A system d update broke that last year in OpenSuse and I’m assuming other distros. I sleep now and it wakes fine.

No. It’s a plan to pull working class to voting against their class interests. It’s a conveyer into right wing voting.

YMMV. I’ve seen issues in migration from Gitea to Codeberg. Always test first.

No one goes for source unless they have recommendation or use it and it wouldn’t matter in those cases where it is hosted.

Lot’s use Github, but it doesn’t matter. Lots hate Microsoft too.

Rock star devs are just devs that know the code so can do it faster, probably because they wrote it. Some just hack shit in.

No one is good enough to justify those behaviours.

Cannot say I’ve seen a dev do that in the UK. Anyone would get fired for throwing a chair. Standing on the table yelling would probably get then a bollocking and maybe a warning.

Let’s not forget the GOP. They could easily stop any of this as they have majorities. They could have stopped this in the past (impeachment) but they felt it was the best chance for their party.

Those spineless cowards love power and will rubber stamp anything if it helps them.

Oof. I do not work weekends without time off in lieu. Good luck with the burnout when it hits.

I’d personally respond to their “disappointing” with “Quite the overstep there. Rude.”. Setting boundaries is important.

They should not expect you to give up your free time without asking. Are they your friend? Are they into you and wanting quality time together off the clock?

Edit: oh crap. That’s their boss. Yeah, not cool. Maybe the more diplomatic “Time off is important. Hope you have a good trip.” Firm. Set a boundary. However, very much a red flag. They’re trying to push you into a personal space and this could be highly risky. They may have other motives. I’d consider looking elsewhere for roles. Maybe pushing for a part time role e.g. you 4 days and the new person days if long hours or 5 and 2. Max 40 hours a week. That way they get full coverage and you have time off