I gave up snacking or grazing, don’t think it’s healthy.

But yeah I see people doing this too, though fewer than I used to.

No, sex should not hurt. Does it hurt when you put in a tampon?

A couple of things to think about. One, yes the skin can be too tight, that can ease with time. Two, if you are not warmed up and turned on, you won’t have a good time. Lube does not substitute for arousal, arousal makes room and slip, lube only makes slip. Three, penetrative sex has always felt good not bad to me but only started feeling Really Good after I’d had kids and wasn’t so tight structurally.

Maybe for now do things that don’t involve penetration, and talk to your GYN - you should do that before having sex anyway, to discuss birth control, etc.

As others have said, it’s a backlash against the pill mills, we have overcorrected.

I get migraines occasionally, and have Imitrex shots for them. I love that drug because it is not at all druggy - it leaves me clear headed with no migraine, there is a nauseating unpleasant rush when administered, then it’s just like walking back in time, headache fades to nothing.

But a handful of times (like literally 6 times in 30 years) I get status migraine. Imitrex does not avail me, 4 days no food no water I will puke even a spoonful of water.

I used to be able to go to the doctor and get some shots with some opiate and fenergan. They would do one, I would still be puking and crying, they would come back every 20 minutes or so and do another until I was so far away from the pain it wasn’t bothering me. Then I could sleep and it worked every time, even though it did not work by killing the pain immediately (painkillers don’t work for migraine) the high plus sleep always worked. Maybe $50 -$100 total cost.

But the last two times I got this, the doctor couldn’t do that, it was outlawed. They sent me to the emergency room. Cold IV in a cold room, some advil stuff that doesn’t work, then send me home still hurting, can’t sleep, headache 2 more days but I don’t die from dehydration. $1,600 for a worse result.

I understand why they say the opiates don’t work for migraine, they don’t directly kill the pain. But the previous protocol worked, and with electronic health records, can they not tell this is a very infrequent event for me? I don’t even like downers. I just want the headache to break and that was the only protocol that ever worked.

ETA: and it is spotty - when I had surgery to repair my finger, the doctor gave me 50 pills of oxy, he said hands can hurt bad. But mine didn’t (and yeah I also have a tolerance for pain) and that many pills seem like enough to cause dependence, WTF? I kept a few for rescue med and tossed the rest.

I grow bananas in my yard, and know several other people who do also grow bananas. Not commercially but I would think anyplace that can grow sugarcane can grow bananas.

And there are some banana farms in Florida.

I grow Red Cuban bananas, not Cavendish.

I don’t know but the palmetto bugs here, I have an irrational level of fear of those. They will fly AT you. Just writing about them freaks me out.

I am sure they have a place in the world, and a function. But if I never again see a flying mating swarm of them it will still be one too many times.

I love spiders, love snakes. Rats are so interesting and clever. Love vultures and crows. Bugs in general I don’t like except ladybugs, dragonflies, bees, and butterflies but only the overgrown roaches really terrify me.

Oh I did love swing shift when I was younger. But it was 4 - midnight. Could walk home, and stop for a drink on the way, too. Go home and sleep 8 hours and still not get up too late.

Unfortunately back then I had to have more than one job to survive, but I do like that late-but-not-overnight shift.

I am, and in a 'right to work" (labor unfriendly) state as well. But have been at the same place for 13 years, and am flexible with them because they are flexible with me. Will stay late if needed, (I leave Wednesdays for overflow and tell my boss that is the day I can work late) but take time for appointments when I need. And I don’t answer emails after I go home, am not reachable. I’m not sure why, but they seem to think I am a top performer. As far as I can tell it’s not objectively true, but I’m not the one evaluating it.

People at my job also take long lunches to work out if they want. It’s a participation sports company.

I don’t believe in doing too much, that does no favors for your coworkers or the people who come after. I say good things about my coworkers to their bosses, too. Anytime I can possibly give someone else credit I do.

I work 9-6, go to yoga, eat supper, hang out with my husband awhile, sleep 11-7, have a leisurely morning because my commute is a short bike ride, have 4 weeks of PTO at this point and I USE it. Weekends I have free most weeks. I can come in late or leave early for appointments.

But honestly it works best when one or the other of us are working from home, to take care of some of the household stuff & pets, and we have someone come really clean the house fortnightly, so we don’t have to spend weekends doing that. And I like gardening so that’s not such a chore.

Yeah, a run.

Cherries or dried cherries are good for pain, but for anxiety, exhausting my body calms my mind.

If you are not able to run, sex helps or yin yoga poses. But not as much as cardio. Get worn out physically somehow.

I LOVE reading. Books, comics, Lemmy posts & comments too. Not AI conversations, those apps are relentless suck-ups.

But you don’t have to. My own kids I kept making them try books until they found stuff they like but 3/4 of them still like reading, one doesn’t, that’s fine - we are all different and it’s not like you are illiterate, you can read and write as communication.

I am not sure. Older and experienced, though. A few before my first monogamous run with my ex, that lasted about 20 years, then a few more, then my husband & I did some swinging, and have settled down to just us for about 8 years. But every day, it’s nice.

Orgasm can help a migraine too, or occasionally cause one. In unscientific terms I think of it as all the blood going to the other end of my body. Sinus drugs and migraine rescue drugs are vasoconstrictors, so it makes sense.

Sex can also be a release of stress though, and sadly, relaxing after stress is a migraine trigger.

Income taxes - I do “the taxes” at year end not “my taxes” because we file as married. But when I was single I did “my taxes”

Sales tax, never. That’s just “the sales tax”

Property tax, also I say “the property tax”

I do use “my taxes” or “our taxes” (the collective group of taxpayers) when complaining, like “why are my taxes used to blow up little kids and siphoned into the pockets of people who don’t need the money?” Because it’s money we earned and being used in ways most of us would strongly object to.

It’s hard to say without knowing the first name, go with what sounds good together. Or use your first name as your last name. Olivia Olivia or Esther Esther.

What do you call a guy with both legs cut off at the knee?

Neal.

I watch plenty of animated stuff but not specifically kids stuff. Movies I would, shows not so much.

Books, though? Some of the best written and most interesting books I’ve read as an adult were labeled as YA books.

Never mind - looking through the comments at what is called kid cartoons, yes I do watch them.

I have an address modifier for my physical home address (a description to help delivery people find it) and always just use that when there is a ‘company’ field on anything not related to my job. So basically, I make something up, say my home is my business.

But I like the idea of “Independent” a lot. I’m sure they aren’t trying to keep you out, just trying to help you network.

Yep. Here the tickets for the smaller venues are often still Ticketmaster. I don’t do arena or stadium shows, ever. They have their fingers in everything.

Occasionally the tickets are sold through Eventbrite or the very small local ticketing alternative, and there are a couple who handle their own box office but more often than you think, it’s fucking Ticketmaster.

Stare directly at the people who are treating you like a freak for staring out the window.

Gazing out the window and zoning out are absolutely normal human behaviors.

Absolutely not. Arrogant and asshole would disqualify him from being hot, even if in shape and good looking. And obviously he wouldn’t be likeable.

I think people misunderstand the “confidence is sexy”. It’s not arrogance or cockiness, more like the sort of self-confidence that makes you feel the person accepts themselves and you. The people who are easy to talk to and who listen. That kind of just being at ease with the world, that most of us struggle with. That is the sexy confidence.