We are all our own worst critics. Like, when I look at myself all I see is the flaws, right? It’s a kind of dysmorpia.
There are literal good days & bad days of course, bloated or bad hair day, or bad skin day, but they aren’t as extreme as you see them. Nobody else would notice or care.
I was anorexic so I always look fat to myself, it doesn’t matter my size really. You can’t trust the mirror and you don’t see what others do.
Not like red bean ice cream.
Louisiana red beans & rice, chop all of whatever veg you have laying around, saute them, add andouille sausage if you have it, it’s fine without though. Add beans & water & salt, cook them.
On Camellia rice.
Pintos are traditional here not kidney. Kidney beans are for red beans & rice.
Beans. Punch away. I would take the meat out of chili before the beans.
Tomatoes or tomato paste, spoonful of unsweetened chocolate, some red wine. And why the heck did you not start with an onion?
Dogs don’t work like that. A dog gets protective when it’s anxious, and thinks it has to be in charge because you are ineffective. If your dog is relaxed and looks to you to protect it, you are doing a good job of raising your dog.
Dog park, I dunno, but "standing up to other dogs’ just sounds like asking for a dog fight. Playing dogs are not necessarily jockeying for dominance but even if they are it doesn’t mean they can’t all have fun, without being mean.
I agree that even good, happy dogs can have a nose for danger, our awesome shep-akita was pleasant with adults and gentle giant with other dogs but once was so growly snappy with a girl my stepdaughter brought home and she did steal something. The dog picked up on her we did not.
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Republican voters skew older (retired) so if you make voting difficult for people, the ones with more free time are the ones more likely to vote.
The easier it is for everyone to vote, the less the Republicans are favored.
Mail in ballots would also favor rural voters but I guess there are not enough of them for the conservatives to worry about?
But in short - no, the mix of voters does not stay the same as it increases.
That would be cold as heck here, but we are also in open windows season, with nights near 50 and days skirting 80 (10 to 25 ish) and yeah it’s so nice to have fresh air and it finally rained last night, we are in an unfortunate drought after a disappointing rainy season last year.
That’s not as profoundly bad as I was, nor my nearsighted child, and I had a work colleague with -12 who got her vision corrected with Lasik.
I had the Lasik in my 20s for a -6 prescription and got, not perfect, but good enough vision to only need thin, light glasses.
When I was profoundly nearsighted I got really good correction with contacts, hard contacts gave me supernaturally good vision, but glasses never did. Even now I can’t get perfect vision with glasses, it’s just good enough.
You are farsighted? Two older ladies at my work had to get cataract surgery and in the process, their vision was corrected. Do get a second opinion, but it is true that you may not be able to see perfectly through glasses, I never could. Well enough to work, to read, and to not get headaches from squinting all the time, though, I don’t feel disabled by my sight.
No tengo una plancha.
I have never had an iron, just wear knits mostly, natural fabrics. If absolutely necessary, will steam them, but only a couple times a year.
My mom didn’t iron much but she did have the board and the iron. Some of my coworkers do iron their stuff.
My mom talked about staying up late to hear the black radio station because everything on the radio was so boring. She ran away from home to see Elvis!
You live in a different world, with streaming, you can listen to so much music. I can remember before that - we at least had community radio with volunteer DJs who played different stuff but top 40 radio literally played about 40 songs on repeat.
I suppose your grandkids will also consider whatever you think shocking music to be boring too
Like siempastrophe, I was not blessed with belief. I remember finding out that the adults at the church really believed the stories they were telling were true, when I was 5 or so.
I wouldn’t say I am Atheist, with a capital A, either. No way to disprove, and the simple fact of physical existence is so mind-blowing, the universe existing at all, consciousness, time. But no I can’t believe enough to believe in any particular religion as true.
For a long time, the taxes worked better with one Head of Household filer and one Single, that’s the way you are required to file as unmarried parents, it gave us a bigger standard deduction. Benefits at work could still cover everyone.
I also didn’t want to be required to stay, wanted to stay because I wanted to.
Also wasn’t religious so didn’t have to get married to have sex or kids.
And lastly, I just didn’t really want to be a wife, there’s a lot of baggage and history associated with that. And a wedding was certainly never my dream, either.
I am married now, because my husband really wanted to be married. Like, his preference was much stronger than mine. It’s fine, didn’t really change anything for me, we still want to be together and he & our families really, really, really enjoyed the wedding when we had it, like still talk about how nice it was. So I guess I was wrong in some ways.
I dunno, I can sit by my husband and not get bitten, they don’t like me much so unless there is no other choice they leave me alone. I think they like people who are warmer and emit more carbon. It doesn’t seem like blood type is a strong factor.
If removing profit reduced cost, then most of them I guess. One of my kids works for an enormous employee owned company. So any profit, meaning billing beyond cost, goes to the workers, they are the owners.
Most of our good hospitals here are nonprofit though it doesn’t make them affordable.
I don’t personally care, but my husband wanted to be married and my weak preference not to did not matter as much to me as his strong preference to.
It did help when our kids were younger because “stepmom” and “stepdad” have an easier time doing things like school pick-up than “mom’s boyfriend” or dad’s girlfriend."
I just had what I think is such an American fry up for breakfast:
Tater tots, soft scrambled eggs, refried beans, sliced avocado and onion, sharp cheddar, and chipotle salsa.
Cuban sandwich is American - the bread is Cuban (I asked several people from Cuba) and while we have made some foods worse (fast food Chinese) some are better too - there is great Italian American food, certainly, and fusion stuff that is amazing. And fried chicken can be so good. I think we are aquisitive as fuck, both the language (we will take your word and make it part of English) and with foods. For better and worse.
I have never tried to be feminine, and believe strongly that “womanly” is the sum total of what women are and do, we define it every day by being ourselves. “Feminine” to me is the things people would do to impersonate a woman, if an alien came to earth, for example, and was performing to try to be like a woman - the outward behaviors and paint and hair and all.
So no, and I think it’s nothing to fret over. I want to be myself and help define what womanhood is, not chase after some stereotype. I’ve never felt particularly feminine, but do feel very attached to being female bodied, enjoyed being pregnant, nursing, love having sex as a woman. Just don’t see any point to stereotypical “femininity” or “masculinity” those are unnecessary, and actively harmful in some cases.
Self care for me:
Yoga class with other people.
Going out for a Pokemon go walk
Making healthy food that I enjoy (not trying to be virtuous and not junk either - nourishing and delicious).
Having a drink on the porch - ONE drink - with my husband.
Going to bed when I get sleepy and getting up when I wake up.
This is the one and only thing that Copilot has done for me successfully. There is a theoretical PDF to Excel function in both Adobe and Excel and they suck. The ridiculous AI tool actually does a reasonable job of it, after a few rounds of back & forth with it.