I just had what I think is such an American fry up for breakfast:

Tater tots, soft scrambled eggs, refried beans, sliced avocado and onion, sharp cheddar, and chipotle salsa.

Cuban sandwich is American - the bread is Cuban (I asked several people from Cuba) and while we have made some foods worse (fast food Chinese) some are better too - there is great Italian American food, certainly, and fusion stuff that is amazing. And fried chicken can be so good. I think we are aquisitive as fuck, both the language (we will take your word and make it part of English) and with foods. For better and worse.

I have never tried to be feminine, and believe strongly that “womanly” is the sum total of what women are and do, we define it every day by being ourselves. “Feminine” to me is the things people would do to impersonate a woman, if an alien came to earth, for example, and was performing to try to be like a woman - the outward behaviors and paint and hair and all.

So no, and I think it’s nothing to fret over. I want to be myself and help define what womanhood is, not chase after some stereotype. I’ve never felt particularly feminine, but do feel very attached to being female bodied, enjoyed being pregnant, nursing, love having sex as a woman. Just don’t see any point to stereotypical “femininity” or “masculinity” those are unnecessary, and actively harmful in some cases.

Self care for me:

Yoga class with other people.

Going out for a Pokemon go walk

Making healthy food that I enjoy (not trying to be virtuous and not junk either - nourishing and delicious).

Having a drink on the porch - ONE drink - with my husband.

Going to bed when I get sleepy and getting up when I wake up.

Smell, no. Taste, yes. I don’t understand how something that stinks so much while cooking can taste so good but yes, I like fried eggs, boiled eggs, scrambled eggs, as long as they aren’t overcooked they are good.

The first time, I was 5’9" and 125lb when I got pregnant, so not like I had anywhere to hide it, but I worked until 6 months without telling anyone and that is when it became impossible to hide.

The subsequent times it happened faster, the belly was noticeable by 4 months or so, I could feel it before anyone else could tell in all cases.

I had a history teacher who was hugely fat - she warned us she would be out on maternity leave, we thought she meant later in the year but she was gone the next week, and when she came back, looked no different at all.

That sentence makes no sense. Figure out the amount you would need to eat and work out to MAINTAIN your desired weight and start doing that. Let it take however long it takes, then keep doing that to maintain, or tweak it to improve.

50lb in 2 months sounds dangerous as fuck. You could stop eating and probably lose that much, fuck up your metabolism, and immediately gain it back without even eating as much as you did before.

Oh my ex wanted me to cut his hair, but just pulled it over one shoulder and said cut it off. He wanted to see it cut, understand? No, neither did i. I said “no, it will be slanty because it’s all pulled to one side, let me cut it into a haircut.” He said no, it will be fine, just cut it. “It will be slanty!” He was getting mad, JUST CUT IT! Finally he just took scissors and cut it how he wanted. “Oh no, it’s all slanty!”

South Canada?

North Mexico?

How old?

I don’t feel like I’ve forgotten more and more. It’s more like I have only ever had a few memories from being a little kid.

Sense of self gets deeper, not lost. All those years of experience add up to more self, not less. I was, though, for sure more self-centered when young, less aware of others, more selfish.

3rd grade teacher killed himself.

6th grade, no teacher for half the year.

I didn’t like any year in school, and honestly wake up every day happy not to have to go to school.

Beep beep boop.

Not only am I not a bot, I’m not a guy.

I think there are some here, but nothing like the more commercial spaces.

Sadly I lost it, could not wear it in public back then, it had the circles of hell on the front and profanity on the back Fudge Packing Crack Smoking Satan Worshipping Mother Fuckers. White with pink print.

And yes if I had ANY idea they would get so big I would have asked them to sign it and kept it, I cut it up a little and wore it to shows and don’t remember what happened to it. Really this was like 35 years ago! Maybe more. The club was the Masquerade in Ybor City in Tampa, back when it wasn’t all bars and was still kinda rough.

Nong Shim Spicy flavor are our ramen and I love some Very Hot sauce, sure. Do I want everything to be spicy? No.

When we get takeout Indian food, I ask for Channa Masala as spicy as they’d make it for their grandma, like ever so very spicy, more than anyone else in my house enjoys. Everything else I ask for mild (unless it’s that Vindaloo Chicken, that ought not be mild) and enjoy it all.

Most food I would say I do not make so spicy, maybe 10% of what I cook, but, that 10% I have to make not as spicy as I want so that everyone else can enjoy.

I saw them here, before they got famous. They did a big tour in a white van, played a bar here with a crowd of about 30 people! Bought the last shirt from the hands of Kurt, I had absolutely no idea they would get famous, they were so far from anything getting played on the radio. I only knew about them because my brother’s friend gave me a tape with them, Mudhoney, Tad.

Swear to God I cannot predict to save my life but live a few years in the future. You could have knocked me down with a feather when they got famous, and I think they were just as surprised.

I agree with you. They were good but not great.

I can’t have a favorite, but man we wore out the newest Fontaines DC album. On that record, the last song is “Favorite”. I love it but also love that only a few months after it came out, this guy did an amazing cover of the song, my husband asks me to play this whenever he hears me listening to the original. So- my favorite song called Favorite is:

https://www.nme.com/news/music/watch-porter-robinson-cover-fontaines-d-c-s-favourite-for-like-a-version-3837928

Yep!

Confident, Cocky, Lazy, Dead.

That is literally what Allegra D is.

I agree with the consensus here- you are thinking about this wrong. Allegra-D, the one behind the counter in my state, is an allergy medicine we use for colds, because it works better than anything labeled as cold medicine.

If you are saying you want something that treats allergies, and by treating them unstuffs your nose, that Allegra-D will work. I don’t understand why you think it won’t. The pseudoephedrine in it (the D in the name) is a vasoconstrictor that will open your nose.

If it’s the same drug labeled as a cold medicine, it would work exactly the same.

I’ve seen pictures of people from the past with my hair type, from the time before conditioner. I will buy conditioner. Styling goops too. Do you mean everyone should cut their hair so short it doesn’t matter? I like having styled hair - will agree it’s culture/marketing but so what?

Could use shampoo as body wash, sure, not so different. I don’t use natural soaps because in hard water they do more harm than good. Conditioner is a non negotiable. Sometimes I just rinse and condition, but never wash without conditioner-ing.

My husband keeps his hair very short but that involves haircut every two weeks, it’s not cheaper overall.