That is very obviously not what anyone is saying. Not dating because you are not interested in dating is different than not dating because you’re down on yourself and blame the world (and those of the gender you find attractive) for creating your situation.
I think you know the answer to that.
I’ve heard “what if there’s an emergency or fire,” and I feel like the answer is “take three seconds to put on pants.”
Yeah, you’re missing the point.
They (the mod who deleted it) mentioned “both sides.” I said that two groups, for that one particular thing, both arrived at the “J.K. Rowling is bad” conclusion, and those two groups are fairly diametrically opposed. Not two sides, two separate groups.
My commentary on their “both sides” was that it was a weird take, since it’s clear (if there were two sides) which “side” I was on.
The why, though, wasn’t the issue, and I was attaching no commentary on their motivations (with the exception of calling the Fundeamentalists crazy, because, like… “magic is real and evil and a made-up story about a magical school promotes magic” is preeettttty crazy). It was purely the irony of seeing that post and realizing crazy Fundamentalists also hate Rowling. It’s like that “two strong arms clasping together” meme, with two groups that have nothing (or worse) to do with each other having one particular thing in common.
And look, I get it. It is a touchy subject, and trans people have been getting shit on for too long (especially now) and assuming the worst intentions of comments made is probably correct way more often than it should be. But even the slightest read into anything I’ve said shows no ill-will against trans people and their allies (and lots against crazy Fundamentalists who believe in magic).
I got threatened with a ban on Blahaj because I pointed out basically this when somebody posted a picture of a burning Harry Potter book. It wasn’t even a criticism, it was just pointing out how funny life is that, for completely opposing reasons, trans people (and allies) and crazy Fundamentalists would both support what was happening in the picture.
The author (who was apparently a mod) made some comment about “hurr durr, mah both sides” and deleted my comment. It was very confusing, as my comment showed I clearly supported one of those sides (since I even referred to the Fundamentalists as crazy).
There is a whole section to each DQ for Regional Menu. Some places will have Steak Fries, or… I can’t remember what else. In the North West (US) we had Ultimates and Deluxe burgers, which were the smaller patties (want to say 1/6lb), american cheese, and thousand island dressing (Ultimates were doubles and had bacon as well).
When I was at DQ School in Minneapolis, i got to meet store managers and owners from all over, and it was really interesting to learn all the regional fare (and apparently South American DQs, at least then, were purely Treat Centers, which is what I imagine OP was assuming they’d all be).
That is entirely different store to store. The one I managed and our sister store (owned by the same family) used a conveyer belt style flame broiler (automatic broiler). Far more consistent and less labor intensive.
They’re certainly not ice cream/soft serve stores, but here we are.
Funny enough, the milk they use (at least the supplier to the store I managed) is nonfat milk. So the first listed ingedient is nonfat milk, and the second is milk fat, lol.
It was more of a more immediate example. You can not give a fuck about people’s gender, orientation, or whatever, but ignoring the government and people doing the equivalent of beating them in the streets (e.g. denying them access to medical services, sending them to torture conversion camps, cops beating and/or murdering them) is like walking by while they are getting beat up on the street because you don’t give a fuck and it’s not your fight.
Hey, man, I agree on about 90% of that. I want to not give a shit about people’s genders, sexuality, race, whatever. And for the most part, I don’t.
But if I saw someone I didn’t know getting the shit kicked out of them on the street, I don’t think I can say “I don’t give a fuck.” And in some form or another, the equivalent is happening to people of particular genders, sexuality, race, whatever. So I may not give a fuck about any individuals gender, sex, race, whatever, but I do care that those people are being shit on.
So if you’re the type who walks by while somebody gets beat up, you may be able to tell youself you’re better than the people offering up a beating by not giving a fuck, but not the person who comes by afterward to try to stop it.
One side it trying to force them to choose a side. It is up to adults to say “this is between us, and our relationship doesn’t change your relationships.”
OP could be very supportive of their mother and still not want to move out of the home they already lived in. But it doesn’t sound like the mom wants to let OP do that.
Also, from their other comments, their father has been more supportive through their life while their mom has been cold and judgemental. Trying to force her child into a position whete they are expected to mete out judgement as well just emphasizes that they aren’t terribly concerned with the well-being of their child.
And anyway, if you want support, you should give support. And OPs mom missed that boat, so it makes sense for OP to stay with the parent who supported them.
I feel like it can kind of be confusing to understand how the process works for it.
But it is not even remotely confusing as to what you do. Choose, from most to least, who you want. It’s that simple. You want to get into how those votes are tallied, do a little dive, there’s plenty of videos very simply explaining it. If you don’t, and just want to be able to go vote? Just go vote. If even ranking them is too complicated because you have a worm in your brain, just choose one and ignore everything else.
It might be complicated to tally, but it is not complicated to do. It’s just people being duped by the Big 2 parties to not want choices.
There was a STRONG effort to ban (or at least end) RCV here in Alaska, and it failed, but barely. They even did the super misleading wording, too, in order to make it unclear if the measure banned RCV or supported it.
I was always so confused by the adamant support that was being shown by general people, though. Like, I get why both Dems and Republicans would be against it: they want to be the only two players in the game. But why any general people would want less choice is beyond me. And it’s funny, because the staunchest proponents (at least where I am) were conservatives, when (again, where I live) RCV basically drove out the Democrats. There were Progressives, there were “centrists,” there were Libertarians, and then there was Republican/MAGA. Dems didn’t even get enough support to be on the ballot. So their hated Libs were wiped off the board entirely for being so ill-liked, but they want to get rid of that system? I just don’t get it.
I’ve had this discussion quite a bit, and it’s tough to break the 77 cents on the dollar and whatnot rhetoric, because those people are convinced that a man and a woman doing the same job with equal experience, the woman just automatically makes on average 23% less than a man. And it’s easy to prove that wrong, and entirely misses the point.
Two of the biggest factors in fixing the “gender pay gap” is longer maternity leave, similar lengths of paternity leave, and low-cost or free daycare. And then obviously, a cultural change for stay-at-home dads (though not exactly something you can legislate). I also read a study (I believe from Farleigh Dickinson University, in 2002, though I have had trouble finding it since) that the vast majority of men, after having a child, wanted to go back to full time work, and the majority (though not as large) if women wanted to either work part-time or stay at home. Now, I imagine a lot has changed in 23 years, so maybe that mentality has changed, but if all else is fixed and there is a “pay gap” based on choice like that… that’s not a problem that needs to be solved.
So to recap, we need to stop talking about cents on the dollar and start talking about making rejoining the workforce more available and appealing after having babies, and giving dads more time with their kids to let their wives work.
ETA: To be clear, there is definitely an issue that needs to be addressed regarding women in the workforce, it’s just not the “gender pay gap” as people try to describe it.
Show some respect.
It’s a convenience store/deli/sometimes gas station, and it has the best Thanksgiving sandwich you can order, pay for, and pick up without a single word to a human (and usually in less than 5 minutes).
Well, I’m in America, so…
I guess I’d prep the natives to help put up a proper fight. Find a way to teach them that white people (like myself) carry diseases and to stay away and keep them away. If they land on your shores, drive them back. Never let them get a foothold. I’d try to convince them that I was a demon that got away from the other demons to warn of our coming.
I’d do my best to make it so nobody remembered the name Christopher Columbus except as the idiot that died because he thought the world was much smaller than it is and never returned from his voyage.
90s Dominos was trash. Even Dominos recognized old Dominos was trash.
Thank you for this. It seems more in keeping with the original idea of the US, a federation of states.
To be clear, that list (aro and “black-pilled”) was not all-inclusive. There are plenty of people who just don’t want to date, for whatever positive reason (e.g. too busy, focusing on other things, not feeling like making the effort) or even some with negative reasons (e.g. not feeling like they are in good working order mentally, just got out of a relationship and want to spend some time on their own, trauma) that aren’t aro or “black-pilled.” THIS LIST IS ALSO NOT ALL-INCLUSIVE.
Also:
Just… don’t. Stop throwing the word around so spuriously, or it could lose its meaning. It’s an important word, and using it like that leads to the kind of linguistic drift that takes the meaning out of the language.