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24 days agoMy biggest problems here are the phrases “no objections” and “evolve”.
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“No objections” is unhealthily controlling. You absolutely can object, and it’s gross that he seems to think you can’t.
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“Evolve” makes it sound like people who don’t go on dates are somehow not as human as the rest of society, and are not doing what they’re “supposed” to be doing. I don’t like that either. It strikes me as being in the same vein as how you’re “supposed” to be heterosexual, and get married, and have children. Because that’s what “normal” humans do.
If those two phrases weren’t in the response, I’d find the situation weird, but not overall objectionable.
It’s your dad’s attitude toward you that feels wrong, not the date itself.
Mostly personal opinion incoming, with a few facts mixed in: I think the message on the Statue of Liberty was what the best of us at the time wanted the majority of us to be. I’m not sure we ever were.
First we get the Puritans, wiping out Native Americans, and trying to push their religion on everyone.
Then you get the slave trade, which is not immigration, but a large influx of a new population regardless, that was suddenly a problem for some when those people were free and citizens.
Then you get the Ellis Island years. Immigrants would get here, get sucked into “the American dream” of capitalism (which can help only very specific people), then want to close the door behind them. That way none of the new, filthy immigrants from (insert ethnic/religious group of your choice) could get the same advantages. But everyone kept coming.
Now, in power due to the way everything got handled (badly) after our civil war, you have a combination of the religious right, who want christianity to continue to be number one, and the racists, who want to make sure their daughter doesn’t sleep with anyone who’s the wrong color. They were always here, festering in the background, but now they’ve gained power, and they’re louder than before.
The rest of us are still here, suffering, watching the country we were told was great reveal its ugliest population to everyone. I’m left wondering if we were ever a country who actually wanted immigrants. Or if it was merely aspirational.