I can see where you are coming from but I don’t think this is the hill to die on and I think you should go to the funeral if you are able to. I also have relatives I strongly dislike, but if we are simultaneously at a funeral or a wedding or something, I just don’t talk to them. If they have hurtful things to say about me (I know they do) I don’t care because their opinions don’t matter to me.
I can see where you are coming from but I don’t think this is the hill to die on and I think you should go to the funeral if you are able to. I also have relatives I strongly dislike, but if we are simultaneously at a funeral or a wedding or something, I just don’t talk to them. If they have hurtful things to say about me (I know they do) I don’t care because their opinions don’t matter to me.