the heart muscle dies. they can tell via EKG

heart attacks come in many different forms. even silent ones.

my dad had a major heart attack at 51. when they evaluated him he had had three previous heart attacks that he never knew about.

right, you’re not a the bigot here. not at all.

my cell is mostly just numbers.

no, man is not a label. i use it for women and queer people too.

typical lemmy. ‘if you disagree with me or challenge me you are just a hateful bigot’ straight to the personal attack because you have nothing of substance to say.

No, life is pretty easy for me. I don’t agonize over the labels of things. I mostly ignore them. Just like I ignore lazy relativism arguments that think words have no meaning… but who hypocritically get very defensive about those very same words.

None of those things are arbitrary, but keep telling yourself that if it makes you feel smart i guess? Jesus. Not everyone is so divorced from a physical/objective reality as you are.

I say ‘hey man’.

I don’t really use my name or other people’s names when interacting with them, no. I also don’t really use labels and I avoid socialize with people who are obsessed with them because I mostly find them to be massively self-obsessed jerks who lack respect for others and arrogantly insist they know shit they don’t.

Because I don’t really give a fuck about these weird arbitrary definitions of 150 pride flags that angsty teens on tumblr made up to feel special. anymore than i think anyone’s given name is some sort of ‘identity’ or horoscope of their personality.

anyone can be potentially attracted to anyone in the right circumstances…

Yes, you are ace. So you are making up a false narrative about how other people work, that isn’t true.

Very few people are like that. Most people are not attracted to most people. Most people are not attracted to others solely based on looks either. There is also a difference in recognizing someone’s beauty, and being attracted to them.

And I’m talking real world attraction, not sexual fantasizing.

the people you are in relationships get to decide what is valid to.

but if you never engage in relationships, yeah you can be an attack helicopter. but if you do feel that way, don’t be surprised that nobody else wants to interact with you.

that’s interesting, where is that distinction from?

you could stop giving a fuck about stupid arbitrary labels?

all that means is you are agonizing about how others perceive you and will label you and you feel it has some weight.

people have called me gay/queer my entire life. it’s annoying, but it has no bearing on what i really am. no amount of people calling me gay is ever going to make me gay.

because labels are feelings and your feelings are wrong, or something, but you can’t ever tell anyone else their feelings are wrong.

otherwise known as a normal person.

the vast a majority of folks only have sex in relationships. despite what popular media tells you.

also different standards.

one person’s clean is another’s dirty. etc.

most of them inherited their money.

most stupid people I meet who have all that stuff, it’s because most of it was inherited from mom and dad, or mom and dad had the connections to get them a 100K+ job straight out of college at a friends’ company.

And they think anyone who doesn’t have all stuff that is expensive as their stuff is stupid, because if they were smart, why wouldn’t they be richer than them?

I taught college for a few years.

Only about 10-20% of my students showed any evidence of engagement or understanding with the material.

The other 60% were just parroting everything, but that’s good enough to get B/C and pass the class and that’s all they care about.

And about 20% were total idiots who didn’t belong in a college classroom, but the school won’t fail them even when they cheat because money. 10% of my students cheated and I reported them and only about 3% of those that cheat get punished for it, the others get passed with a low grade.

Because people have different standards and don’t agree on what smart or stupid is.

I see people praising something as total genius, that I think is stupid as shit. And I see really smart things people say, downvoted into oblivion and called stupid.

People generally think stuff they agree with and makes them feel good is smart, and stuff they don’t agree with and makes them feel bad is stupid.

People keep trying to tell me all sorts of things about myself that I don’t agree with, and are objectively not true about myself.

Like based on my last name they assume I’m an Italian immigrant and often will argue about it with me and tell me how I must have grown up, usually based on TV stereotypes of Italians. It’s totally bizarre. For example I grew up on shitty processed white people food, not Italian food. I never had fresh proper Italian food until I learned to cook it myself in my 30s, and yet people ask me what it was like to have a mom cooking wonderful fresh food at home… and if say that wasn’t what happened in your childhood, they call you a liar.

people also justify and re-interpret their actions in real time. cheaters often think their cheating is justified rather than thinking of it making them terrible in the eyes of their spouse or family.

on the outside looking at the past, we have hindsight and context and oftentimes a different cultural and historical set of standards than other societies and other times had.

I find it particularly baffling when people like go back and read 18th century books and think they are bad people because they were racist or something. At that time, not being racist would have made you the moral outlier, just like being atheistic would.