me good. you different! you bad!

you be like me, you good! me tell you how! otherwise you stupid/bad and me hate!

:þ

And I totally disagree with that narrative.

Because in my experience I listened, but then was guilty of the crime of pre-rape. And then i stopped listening to feminists. Being male and doing anything male-coded was a crime to them. Popular feminism decided men were evil. Full stop.

then 10 years later… many of those very same feminists are now preaching 1950s subordination to their husband and God and many are of them anti-trans advocates. Every feminist I went to grad school with became everything she claimed to hate in her 20s. And icing on the cake, they would inherent tons of money from their parents and start lecturing others to grow up and work hard like they did…

wtf is ‘real’ feminist theory, btw? feminist theory has 100s of flavors.

FWIW my entire life i’ve known people who do this shit IRL. My college campus was rife with people like this.

My daily life is also regularly full of people like this.

yep.

i will write out three paragraphs… get multiple replies about like three words I said that are taken totally out of context.

i’d say trolls/bots… but i know way too many people IRL who do the very same thing. they are just stupid assholes looking to cause drama to puff up themselves as ‘outing’ everyone as evil/bad because they are ‘warriors’ for justice. their entire existing is all about inflating their own ego and being willfully ignorant and their primary hobby in life is being ‘offended’ by anything/everything.

what i can’t get is why people like being around people like this… but they do for some reason.

Same with going off the headlines. I am well aware that we lose 90%+ of communication over text, but damn, some of these fucking people. You have to learn to couch your comment in such a way that even obvious sarcasm and the like is obvious.

ever IRL hobby/group i ever did went from a cool chill group to being full of rabid assholes once it got ‘popular’. as in… people heard it was ‘cool’ and wanted to join because they want to be ‘cool’. as soon as people are doing something for status/image and not because they actually enjoy/love it… that’s when the toxicity starts. because the cool people are the insecure shallow types who need to crap on anyone who is ‘uncool’.

status chasing is the root of a lot of it, imo.

yeah i’ve noticed this. the people who harass me go to my comment history, start downvoting everything i say or replying to old comments and/or reporting them… just like people do on reddit.

one disagreement on one comment or issue becomes a personal vendetta

that kind of craziness never happened to me on reddit until the past few years. mostly in my local subreddit where insane people who report and harass you for something supporting or disagreeing with mayors policies.

over the weekend i had some guy scream in my face what homo i was for wearing suede boots. apparently suede makes you gay, i had no clue. such a helpful thing to be informed of.

I have been threatened and harassed in person multiple times the past few years. but left and right wingers. by trans and anti-trans folks, etc. i’ve had people shove and try to physically start fight with me while i was waiting for a takeout order or coffee.

angry people just want to beat up any one that is in front of them. and they will see what they want to see. the angry left assumes i’m a meathead trump supporter, the angry right assumes i’m a soyboy homo.

American TV is mostly prescription drug and car advertisements these days.

i don’t really use apps on my phone anymore other than for maps. i just my phone primarily as a phone.

Amen.

Honestly, IRL or online, once that ‘my leftism is the only good leftism’ shit starts, I leave the community. I have no time for bigots and bullies in my life. No matter the flavor of their politics.

And I go find another group where they actually do good work, rather than sitting on their asses pontificating about how noble and good they are and how they need more minorities in the group to improve their brand image.

those traits make you a social outcast.

they don’t like you. that’s what they meant.

non-genuine people don’t like genuine people. they are a threat.

people also change. i knew genuine peopel who became non-genuine because they just wanted popularity, money and power.

they don’t bullshit, try to impress, or brag constantly. they don’t shit on other people to boost themselves up, or go incessantly about their victimhood in society.

maybe like 5-10% people are genuine by that metric.

most upper middle class professionals I have met in my life do not have lives other than work. they take their 2-3 weeks off on expensive international vacations, but have no hobbies and their social life is just drinks with co-workers. Work is their religion, their family, and their entire identity. Your job is who you are and there can be no separation from it.

even if they do have a hobby it’s only viewed as valuable in terms of productivity. like working out for more energy/health so you can be a more productive worker. or reading non-fiction to improve your work productivity/knowledge, etc.

they ‘have it all’ but yet they are deeply unfulfilled and unsatisfied with their lives and think more work and promotions is what is going to fill the hole.

i just went out with a woman this weekend who is a head pharma research scientist. asked her what she does in free time/hobbies and her response was “i don’t have time for enjoying life.” and she was really proud of this and started condescending to me because I actually enjoy life.

I dress for the weather.

I have multiple times been passively insulted by fashionistas who said ‘you treat clothing like it’s functional only’.

no shit I do. And I’m proud of it. fuck fashion and it’s classist bullshit.

Forget commmercials. Most people I know/met lately seem to think anyone who isn’t working 60-80 hour weeks is a ‘loser’.

working 30-40 hours now is considered ‘lazy’.

Yeah Lemmy is egregiously one sided and many users here harass you for not being part of the groupthink.

It is way too tech focused and tech people are incredibly insular in their perspective and think anyone who doesn’t think they way they do is stupid. Which is infuriating and why most non tech people hate tech people.

Linux is great for servers and technical work, but it’s never going to be a useful OS for the vast majority of people.

that or pointing out viral marketing posts.

my itch is for thoughful debate and discussion… usually on place I find it anymore is podcasts. i miss being able to participate in it, but reddit was great for it years ago. social media basically is anti-thoughtful because it all designs to appeal to raw emotions and bias confirmation.