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Cake day: June 17th, 2023

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  • It’s obviously hard to know how my childhood would have been had my parents divorced, but my main “benefit” from them staying together is that I saw who I didn’t want to be. That’s not much. It soured my views on marriage, which only got worse when my long-term partner’s parents started pushing for it. Both my now-in-laws were remarried, telling me how important marriage was, while also having a relationship with each other as contentious as my own parents. (Eventually, I had 8 friends get married in one year and the whole thing clicked for me with much, much healthier examples)

    Would life have been worse with split parents? Who knows. No way of telling. Lose some negativity, potentially add a ton of instability.

    I can’t recommend one way or the other. I only ask you consider your own mental health and attitude and how it affects your family’s home life. But the one thing I can say pretty confidently (and of course don’t know if you do this): as frustrating as shit gets, do not trash talk your spouse to your kids. And if you’re really trying to explain to them why your spouse is hurting you, you better be as innocent as you portray yourself. I took my dad’s words to heart and despised my mom through my teen years, only to come around in my 20s and realized it was my dad who was the mean one. The stories didn’t add up. I mean, he literally complained to me once (after I saw the truth) that my mom withheld sex for 2 years for some bullshit set of reasons that included everything except himself. It was pretty clear at that point she had no interest in the miserable old man he became, along with him watching political “news” all day, complaining about dinner not being done, not cleaning, etc.

    Kids see everything. They aren’t naive forever.




  • It varies. If you have this all the time, I’d suspect your sleep duration is not aligned with your sleep cycles. I’ll be more confused if I had dreamy sleep, I’ll be more confused if I wake from REM or deep, and I’ll be very confused if I awake from a dreamy sleep during REM or deep. I don’t think I forget I’m human, but it can take a second to adjust to not having a dream reality. I’m definitely, often enough, entirely confused as to where I am for a moment.

    However, this effect is lessened when I awake from light sleep. It feels more natural. There’s a lingering sleepy feeling, but it somehow feels like I’m well rested, even if it’s a short sleep. Sleep cycles are typically 90 minutes (light-rem-deep-rem-light). 6 hours isn’t great, but waking is acceptable. 7.5 is good enough for me. 9 is too much commitment to test.

    Ironically, when I drink until bedtime, I can sometimes wake instantly if the timing is right. However, it’s like a low power mode. I’m alert, but lazy. Like I just blinked away my entire sleep. Alcohol tends to prevent REM and disrupt deep sleep.





  • I say “delve” often in technical breakdowns when writing. I never say it out loud because my hands will tell you we’re digging down into a topic. I use em dashes too, when digressing into an important fact that needs to be mentioned but not expanded upon. It comes from textbooks, not plagiarised LLM gable. Call me assumptive, but I’d expect ley has a higher rate of similar-minded people than other platforms - people that have properly studied textbooks at some point.

    You can probably tell I’m human because I usuallyiss a typo somewhere in my post where I hit backspace instead of “M” at the lead of a word, causing two words to questionably mash together. Autocorrect can’t help with those. But that’s what an LLM would say if it knew it’s secrecy was in jeopardy

    I think you might be getting false positives on LLM ID, but you’re justified in being skeptical. The Slop is everywhere, no reason to think we’re hidden













  • They’re all heated. The high flow ones just feel cold because they’re evaporating the water faster than it can put heat into your hands. If you hang out an extra 10 seconds with good technique, it’ll be warm.

    Are any perfect? Probably not. I don’t have the patience for them and utilize my pants to finish the job. But, some basic understanding goes a long way.

    1. Drying starts at the sink. Give some good shakes there. You can use your hands to squeegee the other there as well.

    2. Rub your hands in the drier, vigorously and thoroughly. You need to spread the water thin to speed evaporation. Letting it stay pooled in droplets will only lead to the droplets re-wetting the dry parts as soon as they move. It also helps put your wetter parts on your drier parts, further maximizing your wet surface area.

    2a. For the high speed ones, move your hands so it works it’s way from your wrists to your fingertips. This will help fling water off your hands.

    1. I’m still gonna pat dry on my pants because I can’t waste the extra 10 seconds with all that white noise, but it’s a lot less than how it started. I could do a handshake by time I step out. I call it quits when the air doesn’t feel cold anymore.

    Low speed drivers still won’t be worth my time. Again, I promise, I’m wearing pants, and I’ll use them.