Thank you so much. This is really kind. I feel like I’m often meeting the wrong people. Emotionally unavailable, entitled, self-absorbed. I hope I can meet someone who fits your description and respects me for who I am, meets me halfway, and genuinely cares.

Thank you so much for your input! Unfortunately, people love to gossip in this org so it’d be high risk and I really find that internet communities give great objective insight. Your comment is an example of that! I needed to hear this: The two options are “fuck yes” or “fuck no”, and not something in between. Powerful. I am exhausted of the in-betweens, the ones who are lukewarm and give half effort and yet expect full effort in return. I’m not getting any younger, and I’m still single when everywhere on social media someone’s getting engaged or married. It gets really hard to stay optimistic and hopeful that something will come around. But I guess that’s what many others are experiencing too. Anyway, from one internet stranger to another (or who knows, some of us may have crossed paths without realizing), I’ll just keep looking for the “fuck yes” and not waste my time with another something in between which should immediately be recognized as a “fuck no”.

I appreciate it! I know you’re not dumb because you’ve shared so much wisdom in just a few comments. It’s helped me to feel better about it all

Thank you so much. Should I have a real talk with him? I always feel like I need closure and I’m not sure if he was sober enough to fully understand that I want to keep this private being that we’re in this professional organization and all my friends saw us chatting

Thank you so much. I agree but is it possible he was dreaming/sleeptalking and it wasn’t directed at me? Because he claims that he doesn’t remember anything after hitting the bed. Should I have a real talk with him? I’m not sure it registered deeply enough that I want to keep this private being that we’re in this professional organization