(I originally put this first para at the end, but it’s pretty important, so putting up top) Be aware that just because we’re autistic, it doesn’t mean we’re not bad guys. He might be grooming her, he may already have more personal information than he should, and he may be targetting autistic children specifically. If you think that is the case, go to your parents or the police. I know that’s the last thing you’ll want to do, but the consequences if he is can be life changing or fatal.

(Original follows) Fellow autist here, if that matters, but probably not.

No, it’s not mean. People come and go out of each others lives all the time. Your time with this guy is clearly over - if it feels less than fun or has become uncomfortable or weird, move on. Why not? You don’t owe him anything.

As you know, autistic people are no strangers to being obsessive, and putting that alongside a lack of awareness when we’re pushing personal barriers, we can be really annoying. I don’t recommend you accept any money or gift cards from this guy, even to buy your GF a new tablet. That will give him a bigger feeling of entitlement and certainly gives him power over you.

Just stop communicating. No explanations, no apologies, both of you just stop and block. If he tries to contact you after that, or by other means, that’s creepy af and definitely report.

It’s a self hosted web app, and that’s not something that’s easy to change once it’s written. The benefits to self hosting are pretty well established, and this type of thing can be accessed from anywhere in the world by multiple devices and always be in sync. For myself, I use this both from a laptop, my desktop and a phone when I’m out - I’m always jotting down thoughts before they fall out of my head. Also, there’s probably a lot of desktop task apps out there already that do tasks, like many Email clients. I don’t mind reinventing a wheel, but not too keen on reinventing all the wheels.

Demo is a fair point, I’ll include that on the wishlist for the future. I think the pictures probably do a fair job of indicating how a task app works - which is basically a way of entering, displaying and ticking off tasks which many people will be familiar with, but perhaps I’m just over familiar with the concept. A self resettable demo might be nice, yes.

Not just America - all Western countries did.

We made it expensive to manufacture goods due to labour costs and well-meaning but crippling environmental protections and couldn’t compete on price.

bleddy 'ell

People change, and with bigotry, they’ve often been changed by others.

He may not always have been like that, so it’s okay to like someone once and not at other times. Best advice I can give is listen to your inner moral compass. If something sounds wrong, it probably is.

(very) Late diagnosed autistic guy here.

Thank you for writing that.

One of the revealing things about realising this is what I am is looking back at a long life and realising a lot of people thought of me as rude, or that I was being deliberately awkward. I’ve certainly lost one job because of it, lived a life that’s largely friendless (IRL anyway) and doubtless missed a thousand opportunities through not being aware of them. There’s also an element of cause and effect - sometimes you know pretty quickly that someone’s not going to warm to you, so you just shut them out mentally. It’s expensive for me to make the effort to be normal and as I’ve got older I’m less willing to waste this time and energy.

I see it as very positive that so many people are aware of neurodiversity now, especially younger generations, and their first thought when someone behaves differently isn’t always that they’re deliberately being an assehole. Sometimes they are, of course, especially those with particularly bigoted views, but not always.

Thank you for the kind words.

Syncing is a tricky one. The universal method seems to be using caldav, so Taskpony would need to support that as an endpoint. But I haven’t investigate this as the android side of things is complicated - or at least, I found it so when trying exactly that. You need to install third party software (DavX5 is the most common) - which is listed as both free via fdroid and paid via GPlay. That provides the syncing which is then available to other things on the device. Not an unsolveable problem, but I found it fiddly, and kept being nagged to register software to get it working.

But I made an early decision not to replicate things that are done well elsewhere. Caldav has lots of options, the best I found is Radicale which provides unlimited tasklists and calendars, but has no interface. That does tie in well with Thunderbird on desktop and other things, but again, the syncing problem exists on Android. Vikunja and TaskTrove are good projects that do support caldav and multi-users if you do want to go that route.

I wanted Taskpony to be simple to set up. Run a docker compose command and visit a URL - that’s it for LAN use. No reliance on other software apart from a web browser. I can’t achieve that and provide syncing or multi users, sorry. Of course, you and your wife can just use the same instance of Taskpony and have different Lists for personal or shared tasks, then everything is always in sync.

I guess it is getting on a bit, and it’s no longer required by Bootstrap - but it is still a dependency of Datatables, which I adore.

Thank you.

Thank you for the kind words!

My point is that you don’t know the actual truth. Nor do I. We can’t.

Bots and paid agents are not a new technique - in ancient times, countries would send spies undercover into enemy territory to sow discord. To rabble rouse and change public opinion. It’s the same now, just the tools have changed. No news source is entirely unbiased, even word of mouth is influenced. The only way you can determine the truth is by seeing it with your own, naked eyes. And even then, your own personal bias can change the context.

Reddit is a platform where its’ easy to get the ears of a lot of people, so it’s a big target. It’s not Reddit’s fault, and Lemmy would suffer exactly the same if we had the numbers they do.

What is different now on the world stage, mostly thanks to Trump, is that there’s no longer even any pretence to truth. The most powerful person in the world lies constantly, and his example proves that works. No shame, no integrity, no honesty - just lies and crude manipulation.

“Truth is the first casualty of war”

CAs exist on trust and trust alone.

This, along with any other mistake, erodes that trust and will have damaged Sectigo’s reputation at least as much as Rustdesk’s.

I doubt there’s any conspiracy or higher figure at work here. Just human error.

Rustdesk will probably have a claim for financial losses and good luck if they pursue that - the admission of a mistake and breach of protocol makes it seem likely to be settled very quickly. The tone of this report suggests that this is somewhere they’ll be heading towards and I suspect Sectigo will pay handsomely to make this story short lived.

Has it added repos that are conflicting with your distro’s main ones?

Check /etc/apt/sources.list and all the files in /etc/apt/sources.list.d/

Move anything that looks sus to somewhere else and then “apt-get clean” and retry.

Yes.

IKR?

I was a heavy smoker for 15 years (40+/day). Giving that up was really hard, both emotionally and physically (they don’t warn you about the physical withdrawal effects - sweats, hyperactivity, insomnia, nausea etc) and habit breaking is a bastard.

But at least with that you can stop. It’s binary, you’re either not a smoker or you are. I’ve found managing diet to be harder than that.

I think that’s easier than not over eating because you have to eat and psychologically, I’ve found that harder. Every meal feels like a little failure.

I used mounjaro this year which has helped lose 10kg, but even that’s levelled off. Am also still a fat ass.

“Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.”

True that. We’ve just got a longer list of mistakes.

This is exactly why hes done it.

Why would he give a shit what people think about him? Others rich people don’t because when you’ve got enough money you can insulate yourself entirely from what the world thinks.

You don’t know what hes actually responsible for

Nor do the people judging him so harshly.

You don’t see the pharmaceutical investments hes made

The fuck? Why would he donate money and save countless lives just to benefit from it via some claimed business link?

What a ridiculous argument you’ve made here.

Brave of you to hold a nuanced opinion! So many people have a very binary view of others, and Lemmy’s the same, as the downvoting shows.

And yes, totally, he was a typical morally corrupt businessman and one of the first tech bros in a time before most of Lemmy was even born. But he’s also done a lot of good in the second half of his life. People are dismissive of that but they bloody well shouldn’t be.

Who else has contributed $2bn specifically to fight malaria? Nobody. There’s quite a few now who could have helped but nobody else has. The Gates Foundation has also contributed that much again towards fighting Tuberculosis and AIDs. These are big numbers and they’ve had a real effect. Those of us who live comfortable lives are fortunate where these diseases aren’t everyday killers of friends and family and we cannot fully appreciate the benefit this work has done.

Does this offset his earlier negative behaviour? I honestly think it might do.