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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • It’s difficult, man. It will probably make you happier if you could just forget about it, but brains don’t work that way. Plus some people just seem to be way better at it than others.

    A mildly traumatic thing happened in my workplace. I have plenty of functional days, but other days things return to my brain without my inviting them and it makes it more difficult to function. Sometimes I get transported back into time like I’m there.

    One thing I read about is the concept of mental “time traveling”. When we remember these things, it’s like we are literally back in that very moment. But that is not what is happening right at this very moment. You are “safe”. You are not back in time being harmed right now.

    Is it wise to not trust her anymore if she has proven herself to be untrustworthy? Absolutely.

    But in order to free yourself better, you have to first notice that you are time traveling. Then look at things in your environment. Not her, but try to take in all of the sensory input around you. Remind yourself that you are here, not there. Recognize that the only time that exists is right now. Even one second in the past no longer exists and even one second in the future doesn’t exist yet. Work with what is around you now.

    Idk if that is at all helpful, just something that I have read about lately. Way fucking easier said than done because I still struggle.

    Wishing you well.




  • You know what I’m going to say something different and I hope it’s not too inappropriate.

    The other commenters have done well so far. But have you considered using some of your money for therapy? I see you said you’re on antidepressants, but I wasn’t sure if you were already in therapy or not.

    I don’t mean this as a cop out answer and I don’t mean that they will directly help you with your finances. But it might be a good idea to talk to someone about the “nothing matters because the world is going to shit” mentality. Even if there is merit to what you say, it isn’t exactly helping you feel happy or satisfied with your life. If you can learn to cope with this particular thought, you might find the rest falling into place a little easier.










  • So a caveat to this is that digital signal is absolutely shit compared to analog. Back when we had rabbit ears, even if the picture was fuzzy/suboptimal, you could watch the show just fine. Nowadays? If you’re not getting 100% full strength signal, it is literally unwatchable. The audio and picture freeze every two seconds which makes it literally impossible to understand and follow dialogue. Either I get a crystal clear picture and audio or I get an unwatchable mess. There is no in between anymore with digital signal.

    Plus, I only seem to get this crystal clear signal from the top floor in my home and near a window. If you have a lower floor or have the antenna a bit too far away from the window, it also just does not work hardly at all. This was never an issue with analog signal for me.

    Idk if it’s just me or not. There are a ton more channels overall with the digital signals compared to analog, but it’s frustrating that I only seem to be able to watch them if the signal is absolutely perfect.





  • My mom was a stay at home parent for all of my life. In her early 50s, she ended up going to college in order to become a nurse. Been over 10 years now and she’s still a nurse.

    I would say it’s only ever really too late if you’re beyond working age or nearly there. Because at that point you’re no longer working toward a career.

    The real issue is whether or not you have finances and a support system to get you there.

    In my mom’s case, she had a husband who already was the only breadwinner anyway, so it didn’t cause much of a financial impact per se. My mom ended up taking out student loans like everyone else, of course, but student loans are seen much more favorably than credit card debt.

    I have a friend who is going back to college right now in order to get a better job. In their scenario, their parent let them move back in while they get an education.

    I ended up eventually going to an intensive grad school where many of us had to move and we also did not have time to work during the program. There, I met plenty of people who already married, already had careers, etc…and yet they still managed to survive and get through the program just fine. (Again, remember we all took out loans lol.)

    Then you hear online about med students having children while going through med school and residency. Sounds like hell, but they manage to do it.

    But also, the career you seek should be worth it. Don’t go back to school to do one of those dumb “ingegrative studies” degree or whichever one they call it when you couldn’t pick a major lmao. Won’t net you anything.

    Similarly, it wouldn’t make sense someone in their 50s to attempt to go to med school. The return on investment is just not there for the amount of effort and loan debt if you consider how many working years you have left. Yet, as I said, it was worth it for my mom to become a nurse because she never worked before and it allowed her to be able to earn a living wage sooner and with less debt. The return on investment for her was greater.

    Point is, I don’t think it’s a matter of “too late”, but rather a matter of…

    1. Life circumstances
    2. The specific career you are working towards