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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • If your library is on steam, then there’s nothing to worry about! Works natively on Linux. If your library is on other platforms, I’d honestly think twice about switching full time. Dual booting might be a better option. My library is split amongst multiple platforms and I decided that it wasn’t working well enough for me. Steam games will work great though!

    Many distros are easy enough to install and navigate as a newbie. My go to for years now has been Linux Mint! It’s based on Ubuntu which is based on Debian.





  • Lmaoo omg I totally relate when you talk about kind of wishing you were just gay because it would be easier! I have thought about this myself, really! Honestly, sometimes I’m not even really sure because I do have a tendency to find the same sex attractive in my limited way. I’m probably on the bi and ace spectrums in some limited capacity, but sometimes it makes me wonder if it’s something hidden deep down inside somehow or wish to just be gay!



  • Thank you very much for sharing your story! I’m sorry to hear about your friend, btw. But I’m glad you got to share your life with them for so long. I’m lucky that I have a really good friend right now too at least! They have a family of their own so it’s not as if we can mutually prioritize each other to the same extent, but that’s ok.

    Omg I had the same experience during puberty lol. Even into my late teens and early twenties, my mom would kind of bug me about it. When I still wasn’t taking anyone home, she used to drop hints that it would be ok if I was a lesbian and had a girlfriend lol! Thankfully at this point, people stop bringing it up haha.

    Yeah I’m definitely working on trying to get rid of the FOMO at this point in time. I have a lot of great people in my life tbh and I’m trying to branch out and be a bit more social with things that scare me. But even if I do, I’ll never really have the “standard” human experience. Gotta figure out how to eventually be ok with that.

    I’m not a spiritual or religious person, myself. I briefly looked into Taoism, but it seems that the westernized idealized version of it isn’t what Taoism necessarily is in reality.

    Thanks for your offer to chat! Hope you don’t mind if I’m just giving a long winded response here lol.

    I found out about asexuality in my teens. Even today, whenever I approach asexual communities, I find that most of them are filled with very young coming of age people who are so extremely “terminally online” to the point where it makes me a bit uncomfortable. And I’m saying this as someone who is terminally online myself. It’s difficult to explain what I mean and I hope I am not offending other asexuals out there. But it’s refreshing to hear from your perspective, as an asexual in the “real world”, with thoughts, feelings, and experiences based more in reality as opposed to in an online hypersensitive safety zone.

    Hope the best for you!


  • I don’t think I’ve ever really spoken to an older asexual on the internet before. I know it’s a tangent from the main OP, but do you think you could expand on some things for me?

    1. When did you realize that you were asexual? And how did you deal with it considering it’s a relatively new term that wouldn’t have really been spoken of when you were growing up.

    2. Do you find your life fulfilling? I have a social need, but not a sexual need, so it makes it frustrating knowing that I need people, but that a relationship with 99% of the population doesn’t make sense. (Yes, you can find other asexuals out there, but we are exceedingly rare and there are not going to be many, if at all, in your same city.)

    I’m younger than you, but not so young that my life as a whole is still being figured out or anything. I’m in my 30s and now secure in my career, but still struggle with social things and figuring out what I need for my life to be fulfilling. I’ve likely been a lifelong asexual. I’ve also never had a partner.

    Anyway, sorry if that is too much to ask lol, but I was just curious!


  • Sleep deprivation is literally a torture technique. I am thankful that people do choose to try to raise children with this in mind, but it just sounds like literal torture to me. Even with people who tell me how much they supposedly love raising kids, I see the immense pain and suffering that they go through literally all the time.

    My guess is that some powerful hormones must be released or something after having a child to make people think that they are enjoying their life even though an outside observer can view their immense suffering.




  • dingus@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlDo all banks just work this way?
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    2 months ago

    That’s odd. I have lived in apartment complexes for a large portion of my life. There has always been a single outgoing mail slot with the rows of mailboxes at the apartment complexes. It blends in so it might not look too different than the rest of the bank of mailboxes. This is in the US though so idk how other countries handle it.




  • Shitty. My supervisor is making my life a living nightmare. I can’t go to HR because people have done that before and nothing bad ever happens to her. All it does is makes my supervisor target you and try to get you fired. My supervisor is very careful to tip toe the line where she rarely has ever said anything egregious enough to be reported. It’s just incessant nitpicking and condescension and nothing I can do is ever right. It’s also not limited to me…she does it to everyone…but I have a tendency to get caught in her crossfire a bit more than some.

    Problem is my one and only friend works there. I don’t want to leave my only friend. And my job field is so small that I would have to move hours away to get another job.

    Literally everything else about my job is absolutely amazing. I get paid very well and get free food every day and everyone else is super nice. But I don’t know what the hell to do. I feel like I want to commit toaster bath.