As a single guy in his late 40s (🤮), and using dating apps, I can say that there are a lot of young 20s that are very attractive. But, thinking about that, and putting my kids’ age into the mix, yeah it’s a no-go. Plus the disparity in things they like and things I like makes me wonder how awkward that would be; especially hanging out with their friends.

You’re right. I reread your post and realized I misinterpreted what you said. That’s on me. I updated my comment.

Wait. So you’re saying that it’s infuriating to see politics in your feed after you turned off the filter to prevent seeing politics in your feed? 🤔

Edit: You know what, that’s my bad. I misread your post originally. My sincerest apologies for the confusion.

Years ago I learned (the hard way) that people do not like to be corrected in front of other people; leadership especially. It’s better to speak with them privately, if at all.

If I may, let me rephrase what givesomefucks said:

Do not focus on the “ bigger picture”; it’s not something that can be easily fixed by you. Instead, focus on smaller things within your bubble of life; e.g., been putting off the laundry? Go do it real quick. All of it: wash, dry, fold, and put away. Been meaning to clean your bathroom for a while? Do it. Wash the counters and the mirror; wipe the toilet down (even the back of the base).

If it helps, make a laundry list of things you need to get done or want to do (they don’t all have to be chores). This will help get them out of your head and organized in a way that you can tackle each b item easier. And while you don’t want to pressure yourself to get them all done “right now”, give yourself reasonable deadlines to help hold yourself accountable.

The idea is to build up these little wins; they feel good when they’re complete, and also enrich your life in some way at the same time. It will also help build up your confidence, as you’ll run out of simple stuff and start focusing on slightly more complex things.