Counterpoint: no person exists in a vacuum. Behaviors are an aspect of social interaction, and most are learned through observation (that is, your behavior is mostly the product of interacting with and in some ways mimicking or mirroring other people).
Your “self” adjusts to fit the social environment of the moment - this is socialization. For instance, you probably behave differently if you are alone with your parents, with your parents and your spouse, with your parents and your sibling(s), alone with your sibling(s), alone with your spouse, with your children and your spouse, or with the whole family, and probably all of those interactions are very different from those with your classmates or coworkers.
Changing behaviors with social context doesn’t mean you are not being “your true self”, it’s just life.
I would also argue that there is no privacy and no private life without some aspects of the self remaining hidden at times.
Life is complicated, and you shouldn’t worry too much about being “real”, you should just enjoy the company of the people you are with in the time that you are with them. It goes by faster than you realize.
Counterpoint: no person exists in a vacuum. Behaviors are an aspect of social interaction, and most are learned through observation (that is, your behavior is mostly the product of interacting with and in some ways mimicking or mirroring other people).
Your “self” adjusts to fit the social environment of the moment - this is socialization. For instance, you probably behave differently if you are alone with your parents, with your parents and your spouse, with your parents and your sibling(s), alone with your sibling(s), alone with your spouse, with your children and your spouse, or with the whole family, and probably all of those interactions are very different from those with your classmates or coworkers.
Changing behaviors with social context doesn’t mean you are not being “your true self”, it’s just life.
I would also argue that there is no privacy and no private life without some aspects of the self remaining hidden at times.
Life is complicated, and you shouldn’t worry too much about being “real”, you should just enjoy the company of the people you are with in the time that you are with them. It goes by faster than you realize.