Made a massive difference when I started pat drying my hair, it became more softer and smoother instead of roughly and vigorously rub drying my hair, making my hair dry… I feel like this should be common sense but apparently not to me since I found out about this just recently 😅
I don’t think it’s just the hair type but also your oil production. I also have curly hair and it’s completely untameable if I don’t shower & get it wet, but it’s very oily and unpleasant if I shower and don’t shampoo it.
There might be a middle ground available with other hair products but I can’t stand the feeling of product left in my hair so I’ve left myself with only one real option.
Have you tried dry shampoo? It helps to extend the time between hair washing.