I would say this is helping because it’s allowing me to learn a language and connect with people but this dude “Jordan” (not his real name) is known as a bad person at my school. He is half German and thinks he can hate Jewish people and act like a Nazi but because he speaks German at home, it allows him to actually speak German and say rude things without people knowing.
He taught me some German anyway, and it was actually normal stuff and he told me I should take German classes to immerse myself.
i was a software engineer for a couple years and every few months i had to talk to subject matter experts that were real assholes, but always helpful.
leaning how to deal with people jordan can help you in the future.
Erm. What? Try learning German without speaking to Nazis…
I don’t talk to him anymore, now im learning on my own
I have a neighbor who’s neurodivergent. He’s an older gentleman, retired.
He does the lawn care and looked after the house I’m currently in, when it was empty. He knows the owner. Anywho. The owner told me of the guy before I moved in.
The way she talked about him kinda clued me in, that he might be a little odd. Owner assured me tho that he was a good guy and very dependable.
If you only met him once. Or… Maybe a handful of times, you might conclude he’s an asshole.
He’s very to the point. And critical. Of everything and everyone.
But. He’s actually incredibly kind and thoughtful.
After living here for 6 months, he comes and mows the lawn. Also mulched the leaves and now has shoveled my walkway. Just does it. No pay. I don’t have to ask.
And I told him multiple times, if you need any help, just knock on the door. Cause I don’t usually hear you out there and I definitely can do half the work. But he’s like nah I got it.
Ive had a few minor issues with the house im staying at, and he’s always been available to help immediately.
He will bitch about how so and so is responsible for the problems. Usually reasonable culprit (old house, owner hasn’t done maintenance, or wrong building supply used, etc).
Nothing he complains about is a blame game. It’s all legit. But he sure does complain pretty much non stop. I mean non stop.
As I said if you just met him or only interacted with him in some scenarios, you would 100% think the guy was an asshole.
But he’s not. Not really.
Just different.(very) Late diagnosed autistic guy here.
Thank you for writing that.
One of the revealing things about realising this is what I am is looking back at a long life and realising a lot of people thought of me as rude, or that I was being deliberately awkward. I’ve certainly lost one job because of it, lived a life that’s largely friendless (IRL anyway) and doubtless missed a thousand opportunities through not being aware of them. There’s also an element of cause and effect - sometimes you know pretty quickly that someone’s not going to warm to you, so you just shut them out mentally. It’s expensive for me to make the effort to be normal and as I’ve got older I’m less willing to waste this time and energy.
I see it as very positive that so many people are aware of neurodiversity now, especially younger generations, and their first thought when someone behaves differently isn’t always that they’re deliberately being an assehole. Sometimes they are, of course, especially those with particularly bigoted views, but not always.
He is half German and thinks he can hate Jewish people and act like a Nazi but because he speaks German at home
All the German’s I’ve known are the opposite of this. They’re very quick to stamp out nazism and anti-semitism. I think that generally they would respond more harshly than most non-germans. That said, my experience might not be representative and it seems like the far right is gaining popularity in Germany.
I think it’s more likely that he acts that way because someone at home acts that way.
actually speak German and say rude things without people knowing.
Pretty pathetic really.
You’ve correctly identified that this kid is a douche. Sure he might know a foreign language, but that doesn’t make up for wanting to exterminate you if you were born to the wrong family.
I agree. He’s a terrible person, I don’t talk to him anymore for that reason but in fifth grade, he was my best friend. He is a spoiled kid, I know that, with enabler parents.
People change, and with bigotry, they’ve often been changed by others.
He may not always have been like that, so it’s okay to like someone once and not at other times. Best advice I can give is listen to your inner moral compass. If something sounds wrong, it probably is.
I mean I can’t remember specific occasions but yeah im sure dicks and assholes have helped me. They can still be dickish or such when helping but sometimes its their job or they begrudgingly do it and like your experience sometimes in certain situations they can do things without being dicks for awhile. It does not make them in general nicer persons but does show they have the capacity if they felt like being nicer in general.
