It’s not that I don’t have anyone to talk to, it’s that I don’t have anything to talk about with others, and sometimes it happens that it’s impossible to endure that loneliness and I want to socialize so badly, and I don’t want to drink alcohol or watch shows on Netflix to drown out that feeling, because lately it hasn’t helped. I wonder how you deal with it?

  • deadymouse@lemmy.worldOP
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    10 小时前

    Focus on yourself. Being lonely isn’t rare these days, but being completely alone gives you complete freedom. I’m fairly new to working out, but I’ve stuck to a relatively consistent schedule for four months or so and my body looks and feels so much better. I’m working on my pull-up and dead hang form at the moment, and I’m finding it really tough but really rewarding. I’m on week 2 of 100 push-ups per day, and seeing my body go from barely being able to do 15 in a set, to almost doing 30 in a set, has been really fun! You don’t get the opportunity to be selfish with your time without guilt very often in life, and if you’re gonna be alone anyway you may as well make the most of it.

    I constantly have problems with this because I always forget to exercise, or find it extremely difficult to force myself to do so. Recently, however, I realized that the reason for this is that my brain doesn’t see the point in wasting the body’s limited resources on exercise and is lazy, preferring to save energy for creative projects…

    Oh! Also! Get a bit weird with it. I grew my hair out for seven years, but I trimmed it earlier this year, then shaved it all off after getting sober. Just recently, I shaved it into a mohawk, and a couple of weeks ago I shaved designs into the sides of my head. Whether it looks good or not isn’t the point; the point is about reclaiming your self expression, and enjoying your selfish experience. Be self centered. Be protective of your time. Be expressive. Do what you want. Say what you want. Spend how you want. Sell your sofa. Paint your walls. Do something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t because you’ve felt self-conscious. If you’re feeling invisible at the moment, make the most of it. I started baking recently, too. Totally blew my calorie budget for the day but I ate a whole loaf of chocolate chip banana bread and honestly it was worth it.

    I agree with you on that.

    • nostrauxendar@lemmy.world
      1·
      10 小时前

      This is by far the most consistent I’ve been with strenuous exercise ever. I’ve tried before, but it never clicked for me; I always felt embarrassed, awkward, gangly, unfit, and just awful. I always walked a lot, so that kept me somewhat in shape, but I was deffo weak and my cardio was dogshit.

      What changed for me was buying a small, cheap, simple set of dumbbells, and trying to do a routine I found on YouTube. I failed about halfway through, and the comments were full of people being like “I’m a 70 year old woman and these workouts keep me nice and spry” and I just thought, like… I’m a 28 year old man what the fuck am I doing if I can’t physically outwork a 70 year old woman (not to be sexist about it but just physically yknow). So I kept pushing until I could do that routine, and completing it felt really positive. So I kept going for that feeling, and eventually learnt to enjoy even how it feels to exercise, regardless of completing. I’m up to a five-minute plank now, aiming for fifteen one day, and working on other goals too.

      You’ve got to find your own way into it. Or, just brute force it if you can do that. I am reticent to say just don’t do it, because we know what happens to people who never exercise.