I just saw someone else post asking why someone would want to get married, so I’m curious to see the opposite. Within the U.S., you can pretty much marry whoever you want as long as they are of age, and many legal benefits come with that. I personally know a couple who have been together for 20 years, and we live in a state that doesn’t recognize common-law marriage, so they are now considering it. Are there other situations where it simply makes sense to not get married?
This is interesting to me. When I originally asked the question, I was mostly thinking about people in relationships and why they wouldn’t want to make that legal commitment. tbh I think not wanting to be in a relationship at all is probably the best reason to not get married. forgive me if im overstepping, but have you always wanted to be single?
Great question. I think I genuinely wanted to be with my first partner who I was with from 15-19. After that, primarily the motivator was to pay the bills/not starve. Even in my fieldwork I made a decent wage so I wasn’t necessarily a bad partner financially. But I have received the same feedback from the 2/3 that cheated. I’m too cold, I think I’m smarter than everyone else, and I’m too particular. With that in mind, and no longer having to worry about starving…staying single is my best bet. My previous partner was also incredibly unkind, sort of dealing the death blow.