They’re disempowering themselves. Describe themselves as a victim of circumstance, powerless and without responsibility. It’s a disempowering narrative. You’re shooting yourself in the foot. In this story that we live, you are casting yourself as an npc.
On the flip side, saying “I can’t” adds authority to your argument. You’re citing an unstoppable force as the root cause of your actions. So it’s a tradeoff that way.
We wake up in our cells and dress in limitation
To deprive ourselves of action and causation
Can’t or won’t we see that we rob ourselves of agency?
Why waste our will with can’t where we could won’t?
So don’t say that you can’t.
But do say that you won’t
And I will know that you will will
For where there’s a will, there’s a way
And who knows where you may stray
Oh nice one!