So this is kinda of a follow up from one of my older posts, but you can say im a child of a hoarding family but some of its my fault aswell. My mother believes we dont need an external help and that i can do it by myself as if its my problem, which bugs me and demotivated me knowing how lazy and annoying m family is.
Im here to ask what should i do, i would move out but i cant. I want to know the math behind how much clutter one person can get rid by themselfs, and how much time it would take. its not like the stuff you see on tv and theirs no rotting food but still. I also would like to know how to get motivated and stay motivated?
What would you advise i do?
Do not look at the mess and think about how much work it will take to clear it all out, that’s just going to overwhelm you and make you frustrated, so focus on your living space, wherever you sleep. Do some massive cleanout of your immediate area. Then the kitchen and bathroom(s) that you use specifically. Focus on yourself first.
As they say, always put on your own oxygen mask before helping anyone with theirs.
That’s it, just focus on having a clean room and hygienic bathroom and food-prep areas, make it so you can easily wipe counters and wash dishes that you use. You will face constant setbacks and every time you clear a countertop, there will be a new sack of clutter and bullshit placed there the next day. Learn to manage your frustrations and keep to the plan while you work on getting your own life together enough that you can move out and get therapy. You will need therapy.
If having a couple small clean areas inspires your family to do more, great. Just don’t expect it. Hoarding is a mental health problem that needs serious treatment and some level of self-awareness by the hoarder that they have a problem, so don’t expect to fix it, just try to carve yourself a path out.