Every comment you made in this post has basically been agism wrapped in a cultural mask. I get you’re mad at your parents but you’re also going to be old someday whether you like it or not.

The best advice I’ve gotten and given about flirting, is to not think about flirting, don’t think about the relationship game, don’t think about outcomes or consequences, instead focus on being just a little more bold than you’re normally comfortable with.

Don’t even try it if you’re not already getting more comfortable chatting and hanging out with people. Flirting is just friendliness with confidence. You have to walk before you can run. It also helps to have at least one person you trust enough to tell you where you’re being weird or how you’re coming off to new people.

Yah because young people are absolutely killing it in the field of being social, forming communities, approaching others and starting families and friend groups.

While I get the sentiment about comradery and connection through the focused goals, intense time investment and hardships that military training gives you… I think I’m going to recommend people find ways to connect that don’t lead to potentially murdering Iranians or getting murdered by drones in the wreckage of Tehran or wherever we decide to “freedom” next.

You do need to make an effort, though, instead of excuses.

This really needs to be said more often, I don’t know what’s going on out there but I see this “I can’t make friends” sentiment all over the internet, but out in physical space people aren’t just going to “click” with you, you have to put in effort, use judgement if you’re putting in the right effort for the right company, and you have to decide what you’re setting aside to invest in this goal.

“I don’t have time to do ____” surely applies to a lot of people and situations, but in my time coaching I always had to tell people that you don’t get good at something without making the time to actually work towards it, and making that time is always going to be a you problem. You have to decide if that 2 hours you spend “unwinding” after work is really doing you more good than hanging out somewhere and socializing or even just trying new things. You have to look at your situation critically; how much time are you spending on things you’re just addicted to in some way, but aren’t really helping your life?

I get being tired, we’re all fucking tired. But it doesn’t fix itself, all you can really do is force your body and brain to adapt to new kinds of stimulus and activity, which it will readily, you just can’t have both… you can’t spend all your spare time gaming or scrolling and expect you’re going to also be able to instantly shift gears if someone calls you up to go have dinner or play airsoft or go hiking or something. Not that they will if you spend all your time gaming and waiting.

No you’re right, the only way to win the game is to not play.

As long as you’re staying aware of what you’re taking in, and you regularly think about how you’re thinking, you’ll be miles ahead of the broad swath of humanity.

That’s a good point, what do we choose to feed ourselves? There’s massive industry built around people’s food diets and almost no attention paid to what our media diets are like and what they’re doing to us.

I think at the end of the day we all need to really understand how maliable our brains are and how easily we can change the way we think just because of the stuff we’re watching or listening to, and this has been an unpopular topic for a long time because it makes people worry that what they enjoy might not be good for them, but I think as long as we stay aware and keep our diet varied enough we probably will do a lot better than people who just mindlessly draw emotions from people shouting on Twitch streams all week long.

I found a number of really good rising streamers and progressive advocates back in the day by watching Charlie Kirk debates and probably became a lot more involved with further left politics than I would have normally if it wasn’t for Charlie Kirk.

Truly, we still carry the flame. 🔥

This is basically all of media now, there is no such thing as objective media of any kind anymore, everything produced is meant to pander to some group or another.

Even if we accept the passing of the internet, we have to also understand that this is how it’s going to be always, forever. Unless social attitudes broadly change, this is just what the world is going to do with recordable content from now until eternity.

Everything you see, no matter your political ideology or attitude or values, is cultivated and selected just for you to reinforce your beliefs even if that reinforcement is inaccurate.

A few of you reading this are going to frown and downvote and roll your eyes, and to this I warn you: the more you think you’re outside of this system, or the more you think you’re invulnerable to manipulation… the more vulnerable you really are.

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Stop demanding that we be polite to them

This is entirely projection about what I said, I am not a liberal nor advocating for being “polite” I am simply warning you that these “All X’s are pedophiles” is dangerous rhetoric that is just black-and-white as their rhetoric so beware. There are very good reasons we need to be smarter than them. Re-read what I said exactly and take a breather. I know how frustrating it is, but this isn’t a tit-for-tat game or we end up in ruin and violence and without a “good guy” side to fall back on.

Whatever happens, we still have to live next to millions and millions of people who you might label so casually so we need better solutions and not dividing lines. If Trump dies tomorrow, all of these people will be desperate for a new narrative, and we can USE that energy to push them in the right direction and get actual movement to attack forces of capital… or we can get vindictive and stuck in the trenches arguing about fucking words with a group of people who won’t remember your argument tomorrow. Let’s be smart.

History should be a very glaring example of how this can go bad if you think with your feelings instead of thinking about your feelings.

Most MAGA are just dumbfucks who would change their “values” 180-degrees if given the right emotional narrative to follow, they’re literally just children themselves, clad in machismo and vile rhetoric.

The evil pedo-aligned people who need to be targeted (with legal repercussions) are the grifters and pipers all over youtube, twitter, cable news and radio.

We really need to be careful about this "kill all pedos’ narrative while living in a climate where they are working feverishly to label basically anyone they don’t like but especially LGBTQ+ people as “pedophiles.”

Same with hollywood too.

When you’re trying to just make a predictable amount of money over a set amount of time, you have very precise formulas for what kind of product you can publish to get that number. You can publish a clone of Call of Duty every year and make a very predictable amount of profit on the license, but if you take the chance on an “experimental” game with unproven mechanics or other things that haven’t been market-tested, it has a much higher chance of deviating from that predictable profit curve, or flopping entirely.

When you have more than a hundred people working in a company, you absolutely have to secure regular profit levels to sustain the company, and this turns most creative works into slop-grinding and number-crunching.

With movies it’s the same, you can push out a hot video-game license movie with all the same standard jokes and action scenes and big-name stars or the same kind of action movie formula with the same explosions and same bad guys and so on, and you will make a predictable amount of money for your costs.

Even if the finished product is utterly mid and unoriginal, enough people can be pulled in with marketing and manufactured hype to guarantee a certain amount of return.

These studios also tend to gobble up rights for smaller licenses and either throws those licenses in the shredder despite being successful, or sits on them for decades to avoid having to compete with them, but also do not want to invest in those titles, because again, they simply have already done the math and know that such titles won’t hit those target profits the same way a new fifa or battlefield game will make.

Do not look at the mess and think about how much work it will take to clear it all out, that’s just going to overwhelm you and make you frustrated, so focus on your living space, wherever you sleep. Do some massive cleanout of your immediate area. Then the kitchen and bathroom(s) that you use specifically. Focus on yourself first.

As they say, always put on your own oxygen mask before helping anyone with theirs.

That’s it, just focus on having a clean room and hygienic bathroom and food-prep areas, make it so you can easily wipe counters and wash dishes that you use. You will face constant setbacks and every time you clear a countertop, there will be a new sack of clutter and bullshit placed there the next day. Learn to manage your frustrations and keep to the plan while you work on getting your own life together enough that you can move out and get therapy. You will need therapy.

If having a couple small clean areas inspires your family to do more, great. Just don’t expect it. Hoarding is a mental health problem that needs serious treatment and some level of self-awareness by the hoarder that they have a problem, so don’t expect to fix it, just try to carve yourself a path out.

many are too worried about their potential moderate republican voters corporate donors, the same donors who donate to republicans.

FTFY

Of all the things that sort of happened that way this sort of happened that way the most.

Not nearly enough people understand this about our current models of AI. Even people who think they understand AI don’t understand this, usually because they have been talking to themselves a lot without realizing it.

Animals aren’t cursed with the human ability to think our way into harmful and unproductive behavior due to conscious re-interpretation of information around us. Except for occasional zoo-animals in captivity that fall in love with inanimate objects.

Something something about our species basically being in captivity.

I like to describe it as a “force multiplier” along the lines of a powered suit.

You are putting in small inputs, and it’s echoing out in a vast, vast virtual space and being compared and connected with countless billions of possible associations. What you get back is a kind of amplification of what you put in. If you make even remotely leading suggestions in your question or prompt, that tiny suggestion is also going to get massively boosted in the background, this is part of why some LLM’s can go off the rails with some users. If you don’t take care with what exactly you’re putting in, you will get wildly unexpected results.

also, it’s devil tech so there’s that.

The only straight women I’ve ever seen express an honest, self-derived interested in penises broadly have been “OMG I love penises so much and eat like, 30 dicks before lunch” marketed personas on reddit and the like who have Onlyfans links in their bios. These are the commercial entities that are skewing people’s ideas how the genders feel about the issue.

Most straight female partners who perform the act regularly are mostly doing it for the emotional/intimacy connection, like watching their partner or doing it because they know their partner likes it but otherwise would be pretty ambivalent at best.

This is all fine, but men broadly have a very hard time reconciling and processing that their female partners aren’t as into the visceral, genital-focused attractions as they are, and that’s why this is always such a huge issue. Nobody wants to patronized or placated, they want to feel actually desired and men and women, for whatever reason, be it biological or social or whatever else, have different kinds of attractions.

In the old days we made this work by talking to each other and adapting to each other, nowadays people read all the discourse online even before meeting someone to be partner with and get too insecure or hyper-fixated on these differences before having a chance to learn how relationships even work. We were not really meant to read the insecurities and honest truths from so many millions of people we don’t know, it fucks with our psyche in ways we will be studying for centuries.