They might stay your friends, but would they be the same people? I think that’s the important angle.
Our struggles define us. For example, for me, did it suck to be fuck-ass poor throughout university, often surviving on rice only for weeks, depending on friends? Sure. Would I trade it for a comfortable study life? Hell no. That struggle helped me grow, as much as it sucked.
As an external observer, sure, seeing your friends scarred sucks, but who gave you the right to remove that trauma, and change who they are?
I have a bit more hope that my friends would still be my friends without their scars.
They might stay your friends, but would they be the same people? I think that’s the important angle.
Our struggles define us. For example, for me, did it suck to be fuck-ass poor throughout university, often surviving on rice only for weeks, depending on friends? Sure. Would I trade it for a comfortable study life? Hell no. That struggle helped me grow, as much as it sucked.
As an external observer, sure, seeing your friends scarred sucks, but who gave you the right to remove that trauma, and change who they are?
You assume the trauma is a net positive. I know trauma to be a net negative.
If I see someone in a lake drowning, what gives me the right to swim out and save them? They might survive it doesnt mean I couldn’t have helped.