• dejected_warp_core@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    As a fellow American, I’m going to make a big assumption here and advise you to engage with more people outside. Lemmings are great and all but we do not represent the real world. I can say this has helped me and man, am I worlds better for it.

    Right now, the internet is quasi-weaponized against everyone’s better mental health. A lot of people are being fed propaganda that aligns strongly with their beliefs, with many people being sucked into a narrow, amplified, and semi-fictional view of reality. You have to dig deep to find real journalism, facts, and then puzzle together a less biased worldview; few people are there to do any of that legwork for you these days. It’s all exhausting and a recipe for mental illness if you do it constantly.

    Instead, try to get out there and just talk to one person; better yet a stranger. Even if it’s just smalltalk. Even if it’s about the weather with a librarian or a checkout clerk. ANYONE. If you can make your way to a club, mutual-aid hub, local meetup, whatever… that’s even better. The goal is to just verbalize with other humans. The rest will follow from there.

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      1 day ago

      Bingo. People here tend to be very extreme in their beliefs and they vastly over generalized their niche interests.

      The vast majority of people out there don’t know what Linux is nor will they be ‘liberated’ by it.

      But making small talk can also backfire. The idea that you will just chat people up and all will be well with the world is naive. A lot of people only find community and belonging through creation oppositional identity (us vs them). Frankly I have had to leave many communities over the years because the ‘community’ had warped into that mentality of ‘those people not like us are bad, and we are the good guys’ nonsense, usually because it got infused with political bullshit by insecure weirdos who need to see everything through a political struggle.

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      1 day ago

      You’re not wrong, but I think you’re really missing something important - that we’ve seen some truly ugly and disturbing shit that we can’t ever unsee. Yes, we’re surrounded by negativity on the Internet, and Mr Rogers advice holds: look for the helpers. That restores some of my faith in mankind, but I can’t ever unhear that kindergarten teacher who was willing to turn in her student’s parents because she suspected they might be here illegally. Could I make small talk with her and feel a little more normal? Sure. Do I think the majority of people are like her? No. But… that knowledge is there, the banality of evil is still alive and lurking.

      Steve Shives explains it much more eloquently than I ever could, but I wouldn’t blame you if you didn’t want to devote 15 minutes to a random YouTube video from an internet stranger. I do highly recommend it, as it really encapsulated exactly the kind of sentiment I’m struggling with.