• stickyprimer@lemmy.world
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    17 hours ago

    Frankly I think there’s already a gap on this with religious belief. If SO many people truly believe in god and an afterlife, there should be more suicides. Okay, it’s a sin. Fine. But then why aren’t people happier when a relative passes? It’s almost like no one actually really believes this shit at the end of the day.

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      6 hours ago

      I am atheistic and agnostic personally, so not speaking from faith but:

      People can have two (or more) emotions at the same time, they can be happy and joyfull that their relative is in a better place now and at the same time sad and tearfull that the person is no longer with them. Happy for the dead, sad for themself.

      It is not a contradiction, it only shows the very deep and complicated ways of our mind and emotions.

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      17 hours ago

      I’ve always said that if I were to believe that there was an eternal afterlife that entry depended on how you lived your relatively short life on Earth, then why would I waste any time in life doing anything other than securing my chances at the good afterlife. Like if you actually believed that, then wouldn’t you live your life as a model person according to how the Bible says you should? It’s shortsighted to do anything else with your life.

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        13 hours ago

        Let’s say this life is all you get: wouldn’t you also do a million things to stay healthy and live longer, which most people do not do?

        We invented the afterlife because it’s hard to deal with the fact that life is sometimes nasty, brutish, and short. Death is pretty hard to face too. So we lie to ourselves and each other about it. Simple as that.

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        17 hours ago

        There are many religions and it seems likely they all are just different interpretations of the same source idea - that our lives have a higher purpose.

        But I dont think you can be sure that its the Bible that is correct. What if the Koran is correct?

        You cant really optimize your life by following a book we dont even know how much its been manipulated since creation. So most people are just trying to do the best they can.

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        17 hours ago

        The problem is that there’s a loophole where you just have to say sorry and all is forgiven.

        That’s why suicide is a mortal sin, because you can’t say sorry after.

        Although when my step nephew killed himself (didn’t really know him) all they could talk about was that he’s in heaven now.

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      15 hours ago

      I can’t speak for all religions, but in Christianity suicide is a grave sin, so doing that guarantees eternal damnation.

      The other bit, people not being happy about a loved one passing, is not really an issue too - it’s just the “logic of faith” vs “emotions of loss”. Even if we knew for a fact that once you die you get reincarnated into a Happy Bunny, people would still grieve, because that’s how our brain chemistry works.

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        13 hours ago

        Things explainable with doctrine are explained with doctrine. Things that defy doctrinal explanation are biological or “just because.”

        Don’t worry, Chief, I don’t even expect logic from religion, so don’t try.

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          7 hours ago

          I have no clue what you mean. Other than stating that suicide is a grave sin, I never touched doctrine or “religion logic”. What are you talking about?

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            You touched doctrinal explanation when you explained how religious people still grieve for a lost one when their entire religion is about how the afterlife is real.

            It does not make sense if you think in the logic of the religion. But we are used to religions not being logical.

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              Maybe you need to read what I wrote again…?

              My doctrinal explanation was about suicide being a sin, which is the reason for people of faith not offing themselves left and right. This has nothing to do with how a person handles grief because it’s a different topic.

              In terms of grief, I explained that however people may understand the logic of the doctrine, their physical bodies still react to the chemical signals received, and therefore grief is still present.

              I’m baffled at your take that this is somehow a “doctrinal explanation”, mate. It’s literally the opposite, I’m talking about biology here.

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        In more secular societies, over the last couple of years, people are celebrating more at funerals. Which, IMO, is a better way to remember a dead loved one.

        I’d rather they have fun once more on my account when I die than just sit around being sad.