As a second child… I always felt like a “backup” plan to my parents lol

  • I get to become a 黑孩子 for the first few years of my life…

    Mom always be like: “I had to pay several tens of thousands of ¥ rmb to get your legal identity”.

    Like I remember she say it so often during my childhood and constantly recounting the story of illegally giving birth to me…

    She makes me feel like I owe her a debt… like on top of the “debt” of her taking care of me…

    I already got rejected by a government…

    I’d feel very sad if she stops talking to me…

    Like…

    I feel like I need her affirmation to feel like I deserve to exist…

    otherwise I’m just some child that’s never supposed to be born and even the mom disinherited…

    Like… what right do I even have to exist in this world…

    So I really need my mom’s approval…