I feel that a problem is that consent is not treated with the importance it oughta be treated in media and in education. My teachers taught my class that questionable consen t is taught to be ‘enthusiatically exploratory consent’ as in a persom who is unsure of whatt they want sexually is shown in media and education as a person ‘who just doesnt know whst type of sex they want yet ; but youll force them to know by initiating on them’ …when there could be the possibility that the person needs time to Warrm up to you snd to the idea of sex. with you or others before theyll ever have sex. Or maybe the person isnt interested in sex at all causr theyre actually asexual that uninterested person simply hasnt been taught that asexual people exist.

I do agree that enthusiastic consent is a turn on but to be completely honest I think that enthusiastic consent should be the default for most people who are initially exploring sex. Lioe I feel that a person who is a sex noobie, like me cause Im a virgin, sshould wait and try to research amd understand themselves and if theyre turmed in by a questionable consent and even consensual non-consent type of relationship eith another personand they should communicate what they want in the relation ship so that things can slow down at a pace that the sex noobie feels comfortable. Once both partires have communicatef carefully and slowly and agree that they want a questionable consent. or a CNC relationship together? THEN and only then should they interact slowly and carefully with each ither. ANd obviously over time this relationship if it goes on and on will get faster , deeper and stronger to thhe point that it is even possible that a partner youve been with for decades wont have to tell you how to do csrtain things to them in a questionable consrnt or CNC type of way.

We need to make people understand that they should treat questiinable consent as either a very very specific kink foor a very sexually experienced person who has agreed to enter into a ‘questiinable consent’ relationship with you or others OR as non-consent until the questiinable person warms up to uus and eventually enthusiastically agreees to sex. (or maybe they wont warm up to us and we will have to go our seperate ways. Its all good .To each their own of course )

Forcing consent will A.L.W.A.Y.S be one of the worst crimes ever. Never let anyone make you feel bad cause youre asexual or cause youre still in a VERY slow prpcess of questioning your self , questioning your sexuality, questioning your kinks, and questiining your relationship with others. Please. Stay safe out there everyone and listen to your partners and communicate so each person in the relationship can move at a speed comfortable to them OR if theings arent meant to work out? All parties go. their owm way.