What were you told about sex that turned out to be wrong? Did you use it? Did you figure it out later or already know it was wrong when they told you?
What were you told about sex that turned out to be wrong? Did you use it? Did you figure it out later or already know it was wrong when they told you?
That is what I gather that people mean by it, but it’s a lousy way to say it. Still, there are plenty of people who enjoy getting laid without any effort toward communication, patience, understanding, being in-tune, or listening. (Looking back, this should have been a clue.) They’re just doing it for the sensations. Those can be enhanced or dulled by mental factors, but without them, it’s not sex.
Some people just want to get off, everything else be damned. I kinda feel bad for them, since they don’t know how good the cerebral aspects of sex can feel.
Indeed, it would be much better to say, “the physical pleasure of sex can be greatly enhanced by emotionally connecting with your partner.” That’s so much more to the point, and enlightening, than, “sex is 90% mental.”
I agree with you there.