… Maybe?

To be more precise, I guess I’m describing basically light BDSM.

It should be, imo, at least 30 minutes before anything other than nipples get touched, more than briefly.

They’re nude, at least hands bound to the bedframe or something, blind folded but not gagged because you want to hear them and they need to be able to speak.

Start with your clothes on.

Run your finger along the nape of their neck, gently exhaling in their ear on the other side.

Move gracefully, trace lines with your finger or finger nail, along the curves of their body.

Or perhaps trail a luxurious ribbon.

Graduate to using more of your hand… two hands… an occasional peck with the lips… spend a bit more time closer to erogenous zones, start fondling and lightly massaging various parts… return toward their head, trails of kisses moving up and down…

Then, step off, away.

They can only hear.

Maybe they hear something unzip or unclasp.

Light the candle, or grab some ice.

Be careful and exact, always have a free hand as a kind of neutral anchoring sensation, obviously also in case you do too much and need to wipe it away quickly.

Oh and maybe whatever got loosed earlier when you stepped away, now that is trailing or pressing on them in a similar way as your hands were before.

You can learn a lot about a person in this way, and you can approach rules for how speaking works in different ways.

If they are willing but nervous… coax them to communicate more, you won’t do things they don’t like, you will do things they ask for.

At least for a while.

Or maybe they’re very much into a kind of power dynamic of one kind or another, you lightly thwap them when they break a rule, who knows, many possible variations.

My idea of this is that both of you should be dripping from your fun parts before they’re getting anything other than momentary attention, for either person.