What do you think more people should experience as part of their journey of exploring their sexuality that, in your opinion, not enough people have tried?
Communicating with their partner
Kinky!
Someone’s been reading my posts.
Generally, I’d say anything they have personal taboo about that’s related to societal norms (assuming safe, sane, and consensual, and also assuming the agency to determine as such). Chances are that if there’s a taboo around it, it’s probably awesome.
Specifically, everyone should try anal. Seems cliche to suggest, but anal play, at least among men, is heavily connected to ideas around sexuality. That, somehow, if you like your butt hole played with, you might be gay. Last I checked, you had to prefer playing with other dudes to be gay. And contrary to popular belief, not all gay men like anal… plus, there are myriad ways to stimulate your butt that don’t require another guy. Just because you like butt stuff doesn’t mean you like guys (as if that would even be a bad thing anyway).
Generally speaking though, if society could let go of its puritanical views around sex and sexuality, people would be a lot happier. People should feel free to shove whatever they want, wherever they like, with whomever they choose, provided all the assumptions cited above.
Edit: for the record… all women should try anal too. There’s no shortage of nerve endings down there for them… regardless of the presence or lack of a prostate.
If a woman straps on a dildo, and you’re dressed like a woman, and you’re sucking her cock, and she’s saying, “You like it, don’t you? You like sucking my dick you little fucking removed,” and then she rolls you over and fucks you in the ass and says “You love it you little pussy boy! You love getting fucked in the ass. I’ll bet you wish I was a man! I’ll bet you wish this was a real cock, you fucking removed!” and you’re getting off on this like you’ve never gotten off before, that’s still straight.
–Gay/Not Gay, by King Missile
Edit: Huh, I just copy and pasted those lyrics, and noticed the Removed(s). Is that an instance auto-edit, or did SwiftKey do that?
If the removed was ‘bitch’, then no, not the instance, that’s you.
No, in the original song it’s the word that means “bundle of sticks.”
Well then here I’ll just call myself a fag and see what happens.
Oh no! Senpai! I’ve reached over to grab this faggot and , and… its too heavy!
Can you help me lift it?
Here lets copy paste some other song lyrics as well:
Welcome to a new kind of tension
All across the alien nation
Where everything isn’t meant to be okay
…
Television dreams of tomorrow
We’re not the ones who’re meant to follow
For that’s enough to argue
…
Well maybe I’m the faggot America
I’m not a part of a redneck agenda
Now everybody do the propaganda
And sing along to the age of paranoia
I’m still gonna argue that actual lyric is ‘all across the aryan nation’, not ‘alien’, all the lyric sites are wrong lol.
I’ve never heard this song before, but I listened to that part and I hear “alienation/alien nation” when I listen… but, despite not being a dumb little pun, “aryan nation” fits so much better thematically.
I am still to this day convinced that is the actual lyric, because I’ve heard it from them live, within a few years of the album coming out…
…and the FCC, well, they have limits.
Its astounding to me that they were able to say ‘faggot’, imo, given that you had like uh, the Electric Six being unable to say ‘let’s start a
war, start a nuclearwar, on the dance floor’, around the same time… tons more examples from the early 2000s of songs being censored for mass broadcast… Eminem: ‘FCC won’t leave me be’…There was like a year long period afted 9/11 where just literally every song from Rage Aginst the Machine was banned from being played on the radio.
Just, all of their songs.
“The FCC won’t let me be”
(For nearly two decades, this song has always had an MGMT backdrop for me.)
“Bitch” is censored by some instances, akshully…
I’m guessing instance, I see that a lot from ml
Yep, read my post about the “PS-spot”. It’s a little known pleasure center that can be stimulated either through the anterior wall of the anus or the posterior wall of the vagina. If you try the latter, it’s essentially around the same depth as the prostate is for people with penises.
This was going to be my answer, so I’ll just throw my support and further thoughts on yours.
Pegging in particular I would recommend to all genders (if there’s even a little bit of interest, of course). As a woman, it helps give perspective on what people with penises deal with during sex. And I think men can benefit from being in a position of being penetrated and communicating with someone topping them.
Anal play is a real fraught subject in women’s circles, often chalked up to something only men want. There’s SO MANY erogenous areas there and it can feel amazing with the right partner who listens. It takes a lot of foreplay and trust, so I understand where the turn off comes from, but I still would recommend it at least once or twice to everyone.
I thoroughly enjoy it when my wife pegs me.
I’m pretty sure a thousand ER doctors just got a headache from preaching putting whatever you want wherever you want
assuming safe, sane, and consensual, and also assuming the agency to determine as such
People should feel free to shove whatever they want, wherever they like, with whomever they choose, provided all the assumptions cited above.
Am man and yes, anal sex for me (pegging, toys, wifes fingers & hopefully one day her fist) feels amazing.
… hopefully one day her fist
Man’s gotta have goals.
Last I checked, you had to prefer playing with other dudes to be gay.
I mean you don’t have to have a penis anymore to be a dude, so…
I chose my words carefully. I was intentionally hardware agnostic.
Then you should understand how concepts can change and being gay doesn’t require dudes at all.
Oh get a hobby.
Not all dudes have penises. Big deal. You know what they meant.
Being gay doesn’t require dudes, yeah, because lesbians are a thing.
Either you’re an ally or you’re not. Spit it out but don’t beat around the bush. OP meant no disrespect, but when you act ambiguous like that it makes you look like you mean disrespect.
For real, imagine thinking it’s not gay to be a dude and get fucked by Buck Angel hahaha
“but his… he doesn’t… wait…”
I genuinely don’t. Y’all have played around with language and concepts to the point it isn’t clear what lots of stuff means, especially if one’s hobby isn’t ally studies. Since, apparently, I don’t have hobbies, I guess it isn’t.
See what happens when you use arbitrary labels for things that are more complicated than previously thought?
Is it “gay” for a cis man to be attracted to trans women? Is it straight? What about a cis man being attracted to trans men? Is he gay or straight? I gave my answer to that but because other people have different interpretations, so labels like “gay” and “straight” should be reserved for self-identification and not as ways to identify an outgroup. That’s why those labels are unhelpful in these contexts: It makes talking about the physical acts confusing.
My original intention was to make fun of people who call things they don’t think are manly enough “gay”. Just because the word can have different definitions depending on who’s using it doesn’t mean it’s acceptable to use it derogatorily or as a shorthand for a perceived social negative.
It is very confusing. It was not so confusing until the existing words were all changed to not mean what they did. Now nobody can even tell me if there are words for the concepts that the words once meant, even though the concepts still exist but now don’t have words. Almost like it’s an effort to erase the very concepts. Which wont work as long as ppl find meaning in those concepts and the distinctions they make.
Am I just crazy to consider groups of humans with the same reproductive organs to be meaningful things to have a words for?
The way I see it: If you’re a guy, cis or trans, and you exclusively have sex with a guy, cis or trans, you’re gay. If you’re a guy and you exclusively have sex with women, cis or trans, you’re straight. But different people might classify those labels under what physical body types you’re attracted to instead of gender identity, so I prefer to use body-specific language when talking about sexual activities rather than gender identity and sexual orientation, because the latter two can make talking about sex more confusing than it needs to be.
What’s a guy, in this context?
An adult human who identifies as male due to their male brain chemistry, independent of assigned birth sex based on genitals, secondary sex characteristics, or sex chromosomes.
Is male not an assigned birth sex based on reproductive organs? What do we call everyone who has an inny and everyone who has an outy genitals?
Long duration, unrushed and sensual kissing in lieu of touching.
Melting wax from a candle stick.
And ice cubes, from your chilling bucket.
Be deft, be subtle, be careful.
Your subject is blindfolded, and bound, treat them well.
… but not too well.
Make them glad that they trust you.
Next time, see how glad you are that you trust them.
Or visa versa, whichever.
So what you’re telling me is that you go hot, then go cold, say yes to their no, thrust in and come out, cum up and droop down?
… Maybe?
To be more precise, I guess I’m describing basically light BDSM.
It should be, imo, at least 30 minutes before anything other than nipples get touched, more than briefly.
They’re nude, at least hands bound to the bedframe or something, blind folded but not gagged because you want to hear them and they need to be able to speak.
Start with your clothes on.
Run your finger along the nape of their neck, gently exhaling in their ear on the other side.
Move gracefully, trace lines with your finger or finger nail, along the curves of their body.
Or perhaps trail a luxurious ribbon.
Graduate to using more of your hand… two hands… an occasional peck with the lips… spend a bit more time closer to erogenous zones, start fondling and lightly massaging various parts… return toward their head, trails of kisses moving up and down…
Then, step off, away.
They can only hear.
Maybe they hear something unzip or unclasp.
Light the candle, or grab some ice.
Be careful and exact, always have a free hand as a kind of neutral anchoring sensation, obviously also in case you do too much and need to wipe it away quickly.
Oh and maybe whatever got loosed earlier when you stepped away, now that is trailing or pressing on them in a similar way as your hands were before.
You can learn a lot about a person in this way, and you can approach rules for how speaking works in different ways.
If they are willing but nervous… coax them to communicate more, you won’t do things they don’t like, you will do things they ask for.
At least for a while.
Or maybe they’re very much into a kind of power dynamic of one kind or another, you lightly thwap them when they break a rule, who knows, many possible variations.
My idea of this is that both of you should be dripping from your fun parts before they’re getting anything other than momentary attention, for either person.
That’s all cool and sexy but I was hoping you’d catch the Katy Perry joke in my reply.
Definitely did not, did not listen to … pretty much any of her music.
Uh… oops, I did it again.
I didn’t listen to it voluntarily, it was just on.
Hey no shame!
After all, I’m not that innocent.
