What do you think more people should experience as part of their journey of exploring their sexuality that, in your opinion, not enough people have tried?
What do you think more people should experience as part of their journey of exploring their sexuality that, in your opinion, not enough people have tried?
The way I see it: If you’re a guy, cis or trans, and you exclusively have sex with a guy, cis or trans, you’re gay. If you’re a guy and you exclusively have sex with women, cis or trans, you’re straight. But different people might classify those labels under what physical body types you’re attracted to instead of gender identity, so I prefer to use body-specific language when talking about sexual activities rather than gender identity and sexual orientation, because the latter two can make talking about sex more confusing than it needs to be.
What’s a guy, in this context?
An adult human who identifies as male due to their male brain chemistry, independent of assigned birth sex based on genitals, secondary sex characteristics, or sex chromosomes.
Is male not an assigned birth sex based on reproductive organs? What do we call everyone who has an inny and everyone who has an outy genitals?
AMAB and AFAB, if you’re discussing solely biological sex and not gender identity. You can call someone presenting masculine male regardless of their reproductive organs, or you can call someone with a penis male if you don’t know their gender identity but they either apparently present masculine after they understand the concept of gender, or they don’t present a gender identity at all before their concept of gender identity forms. That’s why in most discourse now we don’t use “male” and “female” to describe humans since it’s reductive and bioessentialist language, and reserve it for animals since they don’t have a concept of gender identity. We instead use “man” and “woman” for people who identify as either binary gender regardless of biological sex, and AMAB and AFAB for biological sex regardless of gender identity.
Who decided all this? I’ve never heard anyone use Aman or afab at all. Do doctors and scientists confirm to this?
Look it up. It’s just different language for different contexts. In colloquial vernacular, people still often call people with penises men and people with vaginas women, but in contexts where it’s important to distinguish gender identity from biological sex, it’s helpful to use the appropriate terminology. There are men with vaginas, so if I’m giving advice to people with vaginas, I won’t just say “women” because I want FtMs to know that I’m talking to them too. Same goes for people with penises: some people who have them are women so MtFs would feel excluded if I used the word men to exclusively refer to people with penises. That’s why I don’t use gender identity language in my posts to this community. I prefer not to use bioessentialist terms for what I’m talking about.
This is so confusing…and in this space it’s important to use non-colloquial terms? Maybe I’ll just have to block this space instead of getting so much hostility for using the wrong terms. There’s no info on that in the about info which would have been helpful.
If people using inclusive language offends you, you’re welcome to check out a bioessentialist community. AMAB and AFAB have been scientific terms for over a decade now.