Anyone who has any experience with one knows: Vaginas have liquid coming out of them. This is especially true if the owner of a vagina is having sex. Depending on the person, there will at least be some of the liquid coming out of the vagina at some point in the process. Some kind of absorbent padding will almost always be helpful in preventing stains. This is especially important if you think there will be some ejaculation, squirting, peeing, or period blood coming out at any point.
I made this mistake a long time ago when I fingered a woman on her period and got so much blood everywhere when she squirted that it soaked through the sheets and into the mattress, which required bleach to soak into it overnight.
Put something down to absorb it even if you don’t think anything will come out. Something might when you least expect it, so be ready for the flood.
That’s a true mess to avoid, but can I recommend a water and dust mitre proof mattress pad/topper?
Stuff happens, regardless of whether you wear a vagina, and mattresses are expensive. A water-proof mattress pad/topper protects your investment. A dust mite proof mattress pad/topper might reduce your allergy symptoms, which is a good investment in your well being. Don’t skimp on the mattress pad!
I would prefer to be asked about this instead of a man preemptively assuming I’m going to leak enough to ruin his mattress before he’s ever slept with me.
Talk to your partner first!
I’ve only ever had to use a towel when on my period and I can get very wet.
Also don’t use bleach to clean period blood. Hydrogen peroxide or cold water works better.
Quiet leaky, the men are talking about towels
There’s a bunch of shitposting communities where you can be as sexist as you want.
I think he just forgot the /s.
I think even permissive sexism in communities that are meant for more serious subjects is a detriment to community building.
Everyone leaks when you’re having sex. A towel is not a bad idea regardless of whether it targets the vagina wearer
Her point was that you ask first before doing so since it’s a good idea to communicate. Nobody is against putting the towel down outright.
I’m so glad that you’ve decided a woman doesn’t know about vaginas and their various secretions. Thank you so much for mansplaining what a towel during sex can be used for.
Youre welcome. Can I help you with math next?
Or perhaps reading comprehension?
You completely missed the point of what she was trying to say about communicating with one’s partner and instead strawmanned her argument as being against putting the towel down.
Not at all. I said putting a towel down is a good idea regardless. It’s just a generally useful strategy for all of us_
No one is against using one, I’m just saying that it’s not tied to vagina users. I mean it can be if tying is your thing but no need for anyone to get upset, feel targetted, or otherwise insulted. As a non-vagina person I see benefit for controlling my part of any messes and sleeping more comfortably after. That’s not mansplaining people who have other needs, it’s just including more use cases
Ah, but your wording made it seem like you were explaining to a woman something she would know about vaginal discharge.
I guess, and hopefully we all understand we’re saying the same things …… but when I start with “ Everyone …” I don’t know how I could have worded it more inclusively. Oh well, time to drop the latest miscommunication and move on to the next
Considering I never stated a towel in general is a bad idea, you may be the one that needs help with reading comprehension.
Peroxide and cold water with soap were what I tried first but it just turned it brown lol. But what you’re saying is true for smaller amounts of blood, those do often work better.
Towels are great for sweat as well. It has usually, but not always, been my experience that ass and back sweat can ruin the smell of a room, and a towel is relatively easy to wash or discard.
We always keep a towel on hand for quick clean ups! We just don’t spread it out on the bed first.
We have three! A towel for our backs, two mini towels. We used to have warm water at the bedside, but I lost my water bottle and I keep forgetting to replace it.
That’s a good idea too! People discharge from EVERYWHERE!
Aside from squirting, which only some AFAB people can do, penis-havers produce a lot more fluids overall than vagina-havers.
Dicks do be blastin’
If it bothers you, you clean the sheets every few days if it bothers YOU.
You don’t passive-aggressively lay down a towel for your partner as a barrier to “protect your investment.” You take care of your shit and love the person you lay with or end it. There’s not much in between here.
This strikes me as insecurity leading into a defensive misunderstanding. Do you like the smell of your sweat or your partner’s sweat? Because neither of us are fans of the smell or the puddle, and I’ve only met one person who was. That could be the only way I could see this as even slightly disrespectful.
Edit: and I just realized, it’s my partner’s mattress.
Wtf is this? They make plenty of comfortable mattress toppers that can absorb an entire bladders worth of liquid with no damage to your precious mattress, if that’s your concern. Laying down a towel for a full grown person is some wild shit. Were you raised in a barn? You work in a zoo?
I honestly disagree with you. I’ve used a towel quite a few times with a partner. Hell, I even have a “sacrificial blanket” we used during naughty times. It’s only purpose was to catch the mess I made, and then we would wash it after.
For me, I would much rather just lay down a towel or blanket before hand to prevent having to wash the sheets or sleeping blankets. A little more work up front, but saves a lot of effort later.
Yeah wtf, all those folk that don’t want to sleep in stained bedsheets all week? Just get comfortable in your own puddle and simmer down, right? /s
God forbid people with vaginas weigh in on this topic.
While I appreciate the sentiment, it shouldn’t take a vagina to understand this post is wildly inappropriate and degrading to women.
Lay a towel down cuz they might leak? How about I glue your ass cheeks shut so I don’t inhale your fecal coilforum, you filthy animal.
Yeah, I know. I agree with you as evidenced by my other comments.
I’m sorry, your other comments were nested for me. Not trying to white knight, it’s just this whole post has my knickers in a twist. This world needs better than OP.
Usually OP is pretty chill in terms of being accepting and open-minded. This one post seems a little rooted in their own experiences with their wife instead of a generalized advice post.
Well actually the woman I’m talking about in the OP was an ONS from before I met my wife, it was just a formative experience that taught me what a vagina was capable of and how to prep for that. I do agree that one should discuss it first though.
There are whole blankets designed specifically for squirting as well!
That’s what my wife and I got later!
It’s really not that wild. Towels mean you don’t have to change the sheets and the mattress topper if you’re lucky enough to have one of them.
Also is good for the lube. I don’t see a problem here.
Towels mean no one has to sleep in the wet spot
There isn’t always a wet spot.
If you can guarantee that there will be no fluids leaked or excreted by any participant , then sure, no need for precautions.
That’s why you talk to your partner first.
Having towels around is great. Recommended even!
Pre-emptively assuming a woman is going to ruin your mattress and making arrangements without talking to her is what has ruffled some feathers here.
You may need more than just one towel
You may need a bucket and a mop.
That would just make everything wetter though.
It’s for that wet ass pussy
I never understood that lyric. Wouldn’t you want a dry absorbent first and maybe a bucket and mop to clean the residue afterwards? And a bucket and mop would only work on a hard surface like a wood or ceramic floor, not a carpet or bed.
You gotta wring out the mop into the bucket
So put a dry mop onto the bedsheet to soak up the sex juice and wring it out into the bucket? What if you don’t soak it all up with the mop? You can’t go in with the mop again since it’s dirty, and you can’t go with a wet mop because you’ll soak the sheets!
It’s just a way to express HOW wet that pussy really is. It’s a bit of a silly song lol
