I was denied sedation/effective pain meds before a procedure pretty recently. Despite the fact that I spent the entire time literally screaming in pain, they dismissed it as “anxiety” and did nothing to help.
I also received very little when I first came into the hospital - as my body was flooding with literal shit and I was fucking dying. They let me writhe and roll around for hours before they mercifully knocked me out for my operation.
I’m traumatized to the point where watching movies where people experiencing pain is upsetting. I was watching fucking Avatar the Last Airbender and wincing every time someone got punched or kicked.
I also go back to getting my IUD put in - again, another extremely painful procedure that is “not supposed to hurt” so there is no option for sedation or effective pain meds.
It feels like asking for pain meds gets you labeled as a drug seeker/addict too. I made the mistake of mentioning that I smoke weed (because I knew the anesthesiologist needs to know that) and it feels like it was instantly assumed that I’d be a pill popper too.
And I have extremely high pain tolerance. I’ve literally had people whip me until they’ve drawn blood. I’ve worked a fast food shift with a second degree (even a bit of third degree) burn going down the majority of my arm. I’m not a wuss, I know how to breathe in ways that help, I know how to go to a mind palace, but Christ, when you start digging around in someone’s guts with sharp objects, that’s not really something you can meditate away!
Is it training? Is it the fact that becoming a doctor in the U.S. requires the kind of upper middle class upbringing that doesn’t tend to help people develop empathy?
I can just tell you that it’s not universal: several doctors I’ve seen and know are very cautious when it comes to pain - both from own experience (“we will go strong with the pain killers for the best two days to prevent stress reaction from the body”) to others (“we need to get the chronic pain under control fast, otherwise there’s the risk of phantom pain developing even after we’ve tackled the issues”) (not verbatim quotes of course but the gists).
It might not even be US generic but a regional or age thing in the doctors you’ve met - remember that usually everyone one of us has only a very limited insight into the whole medical industry.
I’m similar to you in terms of pain tolerance and I’ve walked away from a doctor who talked shit about pain in patients - but I’ve head way better experiences before so that didn’t feel like I’m being stuck with this one medical “professional”.
Wishing you the best of luck though! It’s absolutely terrible when people don’t take you seriously, especially if it’s their job to help you :(
All my life what I’ve heard is that pain is only useful as a warning of a problem. After that the pain is something that must be minified.
Yes and it’s a personal benchmark of mine for a doctor how they talk about pain - because this is by now such well studied that I don’t understand how people like OP described are still allowed to do what they’re doing.