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  • You sound a lot like an angsty teen with undiagnosed autism. I went through similar scenarios when I was a teen. A few things to consider

    If you’re actually right, you shouldn’t really need to explain yourself. The truth should be evident.

    If you’re explaining why you’re right to someone, what do you gain by convincing them? And does that justify the effort to convince them? You may be denying them that same gain by not conceding they are right.

    Emotions can alter the landscape and motives might not be pure. If you’ve continually berated someone and harangued them about how you’re right, they might just argue with you to deny you that validation.

















  • My hot/shit take. It’s not ableist to say any disability makes you uncomfortable. Everybody is entitled to their feelings and discomfort is one of those. What makes it ableist is how you manage that feeling. If this ex-friend as you detailed stats trying to poison other friends against you, that’s bad. If they try to limit only their own interactions with you, even if it costs them friends or otherwise enjoyable times, in an effort to not sour the mood of the group or to avoid their own discomfort, that’s OK.

    My philosophy is that everyone is at least a little bit bigoted. It’s simply a matter of to what degree but more importantly how they manage it. If someone is purely racist down to their core, but they do everything they can to avoid minorities and don’t try to spread their views, that’s not terrible. If they understand it’s wrong and try to minimize their impact in that regard, I think that should be allowed. I wouldn’t necessarily say applauded, but certainly not condemned.