Once there people will view moving as a hassle, but I understand what you’re thinking. Mastodon I think did it better with “suggesting” an instance to you, and Lemmy has gotten better about it. For friends and family I think the best way is basically telling them which server to use. Go here, sign up

It’s out of date, and in desperate need of a rewrite. PHP might have been an okay choice 15 years ago, but no one in their right mind should be using PHP for modern server development. (Yes I’m calling out Pixelfed too). With so many languages and frameworks, that’s probably one of the worst right now.

Then it was proven that they don’t really get modern infrastructure either, as their docker containers depend on stateful code, with combinations of environment variables and php files that need to be stored in volumes, and then plugins which are also stateful - meaning that on new updates they need to go through an “update” process. This is directly opposite of good practice as docker containers should be 100% immutable and be able to run just by using docker run. They also have required volume mounts scattered throughout the OS, it was just never designed with containers in mind.

I can’t recommend nextcloud right now, it’s incredibly brittle and slow.

No, you argued and shot down every idea. Let’s take the bar one, you said:

A. There only to drink. B. Are not comfortable knowing new people and only there with their friends or family. C. Very self focused, that they are uninterested into pursuing other activities

So going into this you had a very negative outlook and ignored that you gave a very narrow view. Obviously you assumed a lot about people and what they thinking, and you shut yourself out before ever saying hello. I know this one to be false because I am someone who loves going to a bar, sitting down at the bar, and starting small talk. Sure if you walk up to a group of people you’re going to get weird looks, but I’ve met some very interesting people while sitting on a barstool and just chatting.

This is just one example. I could go to all of the others too, but the point is is that you have a very negative outlook. I go back to what I said, the first step is to find your own personal joy, what gives you enjoyment. I say it’s not that you’re lonely, it’s that you don’t know yourself. You start by looking inward, and learning who you are.

You already posted this on another thread and I like what they said.

Find something you like doing, then join a local group that does it. Can be anything.

And another said volunteering.

You replied:

Bro, I need a starting point. And I don’t like chess and people at the gym seem to be only there to exercise and leave as soon as possible. I need a effective solution.

The first step is an inward journey, figuring out who you are and what you enjoy/like. First you need to be comfortable with yourself, and then other people will come around.

Your starting point is you. What do you like, what do you enjoy doing, and if you don’t know, well there’s the problem right there. There are 8 billion people on this planet right now, the people are there. If you don’t know what you enjoy, how are you supposed to find enjoyment?

Email to register is a one time step to prevent spamming. Just make a throwaway email somewhere and register. Any instance not doing that is open to spammers

Agree with others, if you try to do a replica it’s going to be very inefficient, and your costs will be high. You’re looking for a backup, then just nightly/weekly you perform your backups. Any blob storage then will do, just work out what pricing works for you. Just plan out how you’d do a restore in case everything came crashing down - from ground up how would you bring your services back online?

HDD enclosure is a fine way to start, as long as you know it has limitations. Eventually you’ll probably need more storage, and it won’t scale. That being said, you can get 26TB hard drives now, it’ll be a while. Just make sure you plan out how to back it up. Remember the rule - if you can’t afford to buy a backup then you can’t afford to do the project. Make sure you have backups in mind.

If you decide to upgrade to a full NAS solution later also remember that during that migration you probably will need to use new hard drives while migrating as your current ones will need to be copied from to the new NAS, meaning you will probably end up with a few redundant drives. Not a huge thing, but there will be no “in-place” upgrade. It all depends on where you want your homelab to go in the future.

Build what you want to see. You’ll find that there is far less hand-holding here on Lemmy and the fediverse. If there is content you want to see, then you need to be willing to help post and show. You’re doing a good job here by posting, but be the change you want to see.

If there is a community you want, help kickstart it by posting regularly and driving discussion, evangelizing it.

As for uncensored, you may have to go to the less-federated servers, as most of the content has been defederated, usually with good reason.

Yeah from what I’ve seen its basically “I’ve tried nothing and I’m all out of ideas”.

These guys who read about alpha beta sigma crap, are sexist, misogynistic, completely clueless are then shocked that women don’t want to be around them. It requires introspection, which I don’t think many of them have.

It’s the perfect propaganda machine. Subtle messages that aren’t top bad, only a few seconds to plant the idea, then it gradually pushes you further and further.

Choosing a game for a one time purchase is quite different from a constant stream of ads and subtle nudges to purchase. I would be more open to calling it the same if it was a live service game where they were constantly bombarded with ads to buy or micro transactions, but it’s a very different thing compared to a one time purchase.

That’s not the point I’m making, if they say there for 7 hours on Lemmy or Mastodon or even Loops that would be different for me, it was the shovel-feeding of corporate approved content into their eyeballs at lightening speed.

A book, movie, game are all the same to me, they’re telling a story and most they’ll have is a sponsored item in there or something, it’s the algorithmic addiction I was witnessing in person that I’m commenting on.

Apples and oranges. I purchased content and chose to spend my time there. They were presented content that a megacorporation decided they should like, with a constant stream of ads. It’s like saying someone reading a book is the same as someone reading the penny-saver for an hour.

Mine doesn’t have an algorithm that was developed specifically to be addicting so it harvest data and promote ads. I think a single-player story based game is a bit different.

I think you hit on it, I think it may be brain rot and attention spans. People say they get bored playing video games now, and no question about reading. I think you’re right, if you consume a constant barrage of that sort of content, your brain will change.

I think it’s different consuming content you picked out yourself vs content that is algorithmically chosen for you

And heeeeere come your Doritos Locos Tacos Players!!

I’ve never understood why they don’t have a “shut up and take my money” service. Fine they have their contracts, but they have die-hard fans who would love to give them money to watch their teams in one place. Give credit to paramount, fox, whoever, just get it to your customers. They’re doing them a disservice and missing out on money

Dual license. You can specify one license under some conditions and another license for other conditions. So you could specify that if your code is going to be used by someone like say, Amazon, they need to pay you a license. But actual open source projects get it free and clear. Or whatever combo you want.

Dual license seems great. Mit for any not monetized code, if you want to monetize it that’s fine, but since you depend on the work of open sources devs, then you need to pay for a license