Fun fact, you can use whatever names you want. All names are made up. Your “legal name” is just what the government calls you, but you can ask other people to call you something else entirely. The same goes with pronouns.
A guy I used to work with went by the nickname of “Womble”, his name was actually Raymond.
One day I was poking through work orders in our system and discovered that it also officially knew him as “Womble <last name>” and there was no sign of Raymond in there.
Our IT intake asks “is there another name you prefer to be known by” - and I have gone by my middle name since I was 12, so I told them, and they cheerfully complied… on half the things in their system, the other half use my first name - things like the name under my picture during Teams calls. But, my e-mail address uses the middle name, so that’s nice.
At my work we let people use whatever name they want for any IT stuff. Basically you give us one name and that’ll be your email, Teams, account ID, basically anything your coworkers can see. The only time the legal name is used is on HR documents and payroll, but they’re working to adjust that too, which would be super great. There’s no reason anyone should have to be referred by as a name that they don’t feel is their own or that triggers traumas.
That’s the thing: if he went by Womble at work then that was his name. The fact that the government called him Raymond doesn’t make that his only name, they are both valid.
Can confirm. I have a Rupert J Farnsworth III name, and no one calls me that.
My background check and extra check and mili check and squirrell check and all that? Steve Guppy aka Rupert J Farnsworth III is cool.
My bank readily accepts cheques addressed to my preferred name. Our IRS emulant has all that stuff. It was only 2 years ago my new employer mandated deadnames and it’s been a constant struggle to bring their Plano/Delhi asses into line with anything modern. People say “Rupert! Bwahahaha” when it pops up.
Fun fact, you can use whatever names you want. All names are made up. Your “legal name” is just what the government calls you, but you can ask other people to call you something else entirely. The same goes with pronouns.
A guy I used to work with went by the nickname of “Womble”, his name was actually Raymond.
One day I was poking through work orders in our system and discovered that it also officially knew him as “Womble <last name>” and there was no sign of Raymond in there.
Our IT intake asks “is there another name you prefer to be known by” - and I have gone by my middle name since I was 12, so I told them, and they cheerfully complied… on half the things in their system, the other half use my first name - things like the name under my picture during Teams calls. But, my e-mail address uses the middle name, so that’s nice.
At my work we let people use whatever name they want for any IT stuff. Basically you give us one name and that’ll be your email, Teams, account ID, basically anything your coworkers can see. The only time the legal name is used is on HR documents and payroll, but they’re working to adjust that too, which would be super great. There’s no reason anyone should have to be referred by as a name that they don’t feel is their own or that triggers traumas.
That’s the thing: if he went by Womble at work then that was his name. The fact that the government called him Raymond doesn’t make that his only name, they are both valid.
Yeah, police background checks for your job work better when you give them a fake name 🧐
Background checks are big into “A.K.A.” listings.
Joe, Joey, Joseph, Jar-Man…
Can confirm. I have a Rupert J Farnsworth III name, and no one calls me that.
My background check and extra check and mili check and squirrell check and all that? Steve Guppy aka Rupert J Farnsworth III is cool.
My bank readily accepts cheques addressed to my preferred name. Our IRS emulant has all that stuff. It was only 2 years ago my new employer mandated deadnames and it’s been a constant struggle to bring their Plano/Delhi asses into line with anything modern. People say “Rupert! Bwahahaha” when it pops up.