To be fair, a good relationship (in my opinion) requires little work to maintain: making sure you are happy, as well as your companion. In most cases this wont feel like work at all. If a relationship requires a ton of effort, and its causing strain, it should be re-evaluated.
The ‘work’ is usually internal, and the less your parents/circumstances gave you the more work you’ll have to do by yourself to get to where you were always supposed to be. An adult who was brought up in an abusive household and isn’t existential/bright has to do more work than one that was raised similarly but is more gifted, and the latter has to do more work than one that is gifted but was brought up in a peaceful, loving environment, and so on. 👍
To be fair, a good relationship (in my opinion) requires little work to maintain: making sure you are happy, as well as your companion. In most cases this wont feel like work at all. If a relationship requires a ton of effort, and its causing strain, it should be re-evaluated.
The ‘work’ is usually internal, and the less your parents/circumstances gave you the more work you’ll have to do by yourself to get to where you were always supposed to be. An adult who was brought up in an abusive household and isn’t existential/bright has to do more work than one that was raised similarly but is more gifted, and the latter has to do more work than one that is gifted but was brought up in a peaceful, loving environment, and so on. 👍