I think you can replace “parents” with “fathers”. Most of the other men I’ve known that have faced homophobia from their families have had it directed at them from their fathers. I think it’s largely a cultural pass down from generation to generation. Just from personal observation, boomers were fucking awful about it, gen x did a lot better, and millennials have been even better than Gen x.
At the end of the day, what we know about parenting is largely from our own experiences with our parents mixed with our own ideas. As the culture shifts, so do ideas about parenting. It was deeply shameful to many people to have a gay kid until relatively recently. It was pretty normalized to be a shitty misogynistic and abusive straight man until relatively recently, as well. Parenting is just now starting to catch up with changes in societal norms.
No, it’s not always gendered in that way. I think my dad would be way more flexible about that. He just wants me to hit those milestones of family and house regardless of how at this point, but my mom is way more concerned with what other people might think.
Father’s may be more likely to perpetuate this idea, but I think choosing 'parents ’ was still appropriate enough, as there are plenty of mothers out there who are loud and proud bigots, just the same. Gender doesn’t really stop someone from being a bigot if that’s what is in their hearts. It’s a problem more often egged on by the dads, but far from exclusive to.
I think you can replace “parents” with “fathers”. Most of the other men I’ve known that have faced homophobia from their families have had it directed at them from their fathers. I think it’s largely a cultural pass down from generation to generation. Just from personal observation, boomers were fucking awful about it, gen x did a lot better, and millennials have been even better than Gen x.
At the end of the day, what we know about parenting is largely from our own experiences with our parents mixed with our own ideas. As the culture shifts, so do ideas about parenting. It was deeply shameful to many people to have a gay kid until relatively recently. It was pretty normalized to be a shitty misogynistic and abusive straight man until relatively recently, as well. Parenting is just now starting to catch up with changes in societal norms.
No, it’s not always gendered in that way. I think my dad would be way more flexible about that. He just wants me to hit those milestones of family and house regardless of how at this point, but my mom is way more concerned with what other people might think.
Father’s may be more likely to perpetuate this idea, but I think choosing 'parents ’ was still appropriate enough, as there are plenty of mothers out there who are loud and proud bigots, just the same. Gender doesn’t really stop someone from being a bigot if that’s what is in their hearts. It’s a problem more often egged on by the dads, but far from exclusive to.
No, parents. My mom also doesn’t give a shit about this.