Tbf, OP did not say that these people say this. They said that these parents are fine with the thought of it, which in many cases does very much seem to be a typical line of thought within certain communities.
Historically, women are a lot more often told to not act/dress like ‘sluts’ (framing the harassment they endure as their own fault for presenting themselves in a provocative way) than men are told to control themselves enough to not harass random women and girls just because they can.
They bring up a valid point about double standards and skewed views imo
It’s about a real problem absolutely, and a problem that is worthy of discussion but just this thought process rings so false (at least, among the priviliged western users whom I think make up a large percentage of us.)
I can agree if you take it at its most literal. I was thinking op didn’t believe people think that exact sequence of words tho, so much as similar, but softer, sequences over much longer periods of time. Like, a person thinking “I’m glad my son is a serial predator instead of gay” is almost definitely not happening anywhere, but thinking about the various factors that play into this kind of predation as the, unfortunately, often highly normalized things that they are, is happening in just about every corner of the earth.
Their phrasing wasn’t ideal, but what they’re expressing is, in my mind at least, very hard to argue in good faith as false.
Tbf, OP did not say that these people say this. They said that these parents are fine with the thought of it, which in many cases does very much seem to be a typical line of thought within certain communities.
Historically, women are a lot more often told to not act/dress like ‘sluts’ (framing the harassment they endure as their own fault for presenting themselves in a provocative way) than men are told to control themselves enough to not harass random women and girls just because they can.
They bring up a valid point about double standards and skewed views imo
It’s about a real problem absolutely, and a problem that is worthy of discussion but just this thought process rings so false (at least, among the priviliged western users whom I think make up a large percentage of us.)
I can agree if you take it at its most literal. I was thinking op didn’t believe people think that exact sequence of words tho, so much as similar, but softer, sequences over much longer periods of time. Like, a person thinking “I’m glad my son is a serial predator instead of gay” is almost definitely not happening anywhere, but thinking about the various factors that play into this kind of predation as the, unfortunately, often highly normalized things that they are, is happening in just about every corner of the earth.
Their phrasing wasn’t ideal, but what they’re expressing is, in my mind at least, very hard to argue in good faith as false.