First off, a kid doesn’t become gay. They are or they aren’t, maybe in between. (I know you know this.) I was in the single digits when I got chubbies from Wonder Woman comics, especially where she’s tied up (😮). I knew where I stood. Nothing has changed in the last 5 decades.
Yes, I would be worried if I thought my son was gay (he isn’t). The extra hassle, the ass beatings, fewer partners to choose from, the bigotry, yikes, thankful he won’t live that hell. It’s got way better since I was a kid in the 70s/80s, but we got miles to go.
I am worried he’ll become an abuser/harasser. He’s only 10, and I only get him a few times a year, but talking to him about such things when he starts puberty is top of mind. He’s an angry little fucker, thinks I screwed him and his sister over. (Long story, mom lies unabashedly.)
I am worried that this post comes off “if not gay = harasser”. I know you don’t mean it like that! But this is the sort of thing young cis men feel attacked over. Can you see a 14-yo cis kid reading this and thinking, “Well fuck me. I’m straight so they’re saying I’m evil.” And off to the alt-right pipeline they go for validation.
Hard to talk about dancing around young cis men’s feelings when they have all the privilege in the world. Been there, done that, got the privilege. But we must be cautious not to turn them against us, include them.
First off, a kid doesn’t become gay. They are or they aren’t, maybe in between. (I know you know this.) I was in the single digits when I got chubbies from Wonder Woman comics, especially where she’s tied up (😮). I knew where I stood. Nothing has changed in the last 5 decades.
Yes, I would be worried if I thought my son was gay (he isn’t). The extra hassle, the ass beatings, fewer partners to choose from, the bigotry, yikes, thankful he won’t live that hell. It’s got way better since I was a kid in the 70s/80s, but we got miles to go.
I am worried he’ll become an abuser/harasser. He’s only 10, and I only get him a few times a year, but talking to him about such things when he starts puberty is top of mind. He’s an angry little fucker, thinks I screwed him and his sister over. (Long story, mom lies unabashedly.)
I am worried that this post comes off “if not gay = harasser”. I know you don’t mean it like that! But this is the sort of thing young cis men feel attacked over. Can you see a 14-yo cis kid reading this and thinking, “Well fuck me. I’m straight so they’re saying I’m evil.” And off to the alt-right pipeline they go for validation.
Hard to talk about dancing around young cis men’s feelings when they have all the privilege in the world. Been there, done that, got the privilege. But we must be cautious not to turn them against us, include them.
Am drunk. Any of that make sense?